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Case Study: New to FI and confused
« on: February 08, 2020, 11:53:51 AM »
Hey Guys,

I'm new to the FIRE community and have never been good at this stuff and am trying to figure out what is best to reach FI in 10 years or less.

Life Situation: Just turned 34, female. Long term male partner, 33. Unmarried, may marry in future. Live south of Boston, MA. Zero dependents. I am already vested in my current employers pension which if I left right now would be $1500 a month when I turn 65. If I stay where I currently am while trying to reach FI for the next 10 years it would grow to about $3500 a month, or even over $4200 a month, without early withdrawal penalties.

IRS filing status-single.

Gross Salary/Wages: Salary ~$62,316 after taxes

Cash Savings in a high yield savings account of 2.1%: $120,000. I plan on using part of this money for a vacation home up north that we would also rent out part-time. I will leave 6 months of cash for my emergency fund and the rest I plan on investing in VTSAX through Vanguard.

Fidelity 401K: $38,695. My company does not match. I just increased my contribution to start maxing it out from now till future. I can only pick target funds for this.

Fidelity Roth IRA: $44,711. I'm unsure if I could convert this to traditional as my pension and withdrawals may end up increasing my income
when I'm 65 and withdrawing about 4% and collecting a pension that could be as much as $50,000 a year. Depending on what the cost of moving this IRA to Vanguard would be I may or may not switch this. Either way I plan on moving the money into low cost index funds, worst case scenario low cost index funds w/ Fidelity or move it all to Vanguard

No debt as we do not own a home, I paid off my student loans, my car is also paid off.

Monthly Expenses:
Rent $500
Union Dues $65
Internet $105
Cell Phone w/ iPhone bill $135
Utilities $90
Groceries $301
Car Insurance $100
Gasoline $150
Car Maintenance $50
Hair/Eyebrows $110
Pure Barre   $179
Misc $100
Restaurants $50
Entertainment $30
Shopping $21
Travel $300

Total Expenses: $2286
Monthly Income after Taxes:$5193

Annual 401k contribution: $19500
Annual IRA contribution: $6000

My plan is to do the IRA conversion ladder to be able to withdraw and also withdraw from non retirement account such as Vanguard investments, if I am understanding everything correctly. I am very fortunate as we currently live in my parents duplex on the opposite side and our rent money goes to them. My father has said that the home will be left completely to me, I am a dental hygienist and plan to temp part-time once I reach my FI goal. I don't know if this factors into anything as well.

My questions are:
1) How do I/if I even should calculate my pension into this plan? I have not seen any way of calculating a pension into FIRE that I understand
2) Does this seem doable in 10 years?
3) Does anyone have recommendations for what I should do with Fidelity Roth IRA


This is all so confusing, thank you guys for any and all advice.

Marissa

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #1 on: February 08, 2020, 05:46:08 PM »
I thought the rent sounded low, until I read you're renting from your parents, that is a smart financial move!  Would you be happy staying there long-term? if not, or you're planning to move to a bigger place, don't forget to factor this into your budget. Housing is typically the biggest expense.

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #2 on: February 08, 2020, 06:09:40 PM »
First of all, congrats!   You're in far better shape than most Americans your age, particularly at your income level.   Well done.

Second, I love real estate as a real way for regular folks to build wealth and income.    I'm going to caution you that "vacation home" and "make money property" are not the same thing.   Don't confuse the two.  If you are going to buy a property to make money with, then that has to be FIRST AND FOREMOST the only consideration.   Until you find a property that WILL MAKE YOU MONEY it's a lousy investment.   That said, if you choose to use it for short term rentals and you don't mind the loss of income (and vacationing in the same place over and over and over and over), using it to lower vacation costs isn't a bad choice.    Not trying to discourage you from doing it, just trying to make sure you put $$$$$ first on this.

Third, you have some expenses that seem pretty high.   

Cellphone $135 a month.  Too damn much.   Get a cheaper phone and service.
Gasoline $150 a month.   Wow.   How far do you live from work and what kind of gas mileage are you getting?   Can you improve that?
Hair/Eyebrows  $110 a month.   That's a lot of money.    Is it truly essential?    Could you find a way to trim your own eyebrows and get your hair done less expensively?
Pure Barre $179 a month.   Wow.  That's a lot.   Why not get a couple of videos and use them?
Travel $300 a month.    What kind of excursion(s) are you getting for this much money?   Could you cut costs by 1/3 to 1/2 and have just as good a time?

That's $874 dollars a month and a lot of potential savings.    If you can cut those expenses in half you could have an extra $72,000 in your stash in 10 years.    That's a lot of money!    It also cuts the size necessary for your stash by about 20% for a double win.

I'm going to suggest you take a look at www.cfiresim.com.    You can set up and save some retirement calculator scenarios.   It gives you the ability to add sources of income like rental property or pensions or social security (along with different dates they kick in), plus expenses as well.   It's pretty darn flexible.

Just tag me with the @SwordGuy  symbol if you can't figure out how to use it to do what you want.   

Best of luck.

PS -- if you get married, you're at the mercy of your spouse and their spending habits and earnings.   They can speed things up or totally derail them.   So make sure they've got their money skills developed too.

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2020, 04:51:59 AM »
Couple of thoughts:

1. Do you have health insurance?  I don't see medical expenses above.

2. I also would suggest looking at cFireSim or FireCalc

3. You can estimate the value of a pension by using Net Present Value (NPV).  There are formulas you can use in a spreadsheet.  To give you a quick answer, I put one together with $18000 annually starting at age 65 and ending at age 90 with a 6% discount rate.  It showed the value of the pension at $234,000

Stay the course!

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #4 on: February 09, 2020, 09:37:57 AM »
Hey Guys,

I'm new to the FIRE community and have never been good at this stuff and am trying to figure out what is best to reach FI in 10 years or less.

Life Situation: Just turned 34, female. Long term male partner, 33. Unmarried, may marry in future.
Have you discussed FI with your partner? Are we correct that these numbers are all yours? If so, what are their finances like?
^don't feel obligated to answer any of that of course given that we're strangers on the internet =) but context can be helpful. Not especially helpful in this case, thankfully, so these questions are more suggestive to you =).

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Live south of Boston, MA. Zero dependents. I am already vested in my current employers pension which if I left right now would be $1500 a month when I turn 65. If I stay where I currently am while trying to reach FI for the next 10 years it would grow to about $3500 a month, or even over $4200 a month, without early withdrawal penalties.
Ignore this if that pension is COLA or if "without early withdrawal penalties" means you could start taking the pension at 44.
A thing to keep in mind: depending on when you FIRE, note that inflation will eat away at this. This is a double-edged sword: you get less money, but your IRA-ladder plan becomes more viable as tax brackets go up over time. Of course, this example is using retrospective data so caveats abound, but if we take the scenario where you retire in 10 years at age 44 with a pension projected to be $4000 (in 2020 dollars) available to you when you're 65 (30 years from today), that might provide you the same spending power of what you can get with a little under $2000 a month today. I'm pretty far from a pension expert and would second the NPV calculation mentioned earlier for valuing it, but I wanted to put this out there in general and also to highlight that your IRA pipeline might be more less impacted than you think. Countering that of course is that we're all at the mercy of the IRA pipeline rules and/or tax brackets changing at any time, though generally people feel the pipeline is pretty safe since it involves voluntarily paying taxes now (earlier).
Here the link if you want to play with it:
https://data.bls.gov/cgi-bin/cpicalc.pl?cost1=4%2C000.00&year1=198912&year2=201912

What risk is there that the pension goes bust?
Do you have an option to take a lump sum payement? May or may not be a good idea =).

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IRS filing status-single.

Gross Salary/Wages: Salary ~$62,316 after taxes
What is this before taxes?
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Cash Savings in a high yield savings account of 2.1%: $120,000. I plan on using part of this money for a vacation home up north that we would also rent out part-time. I will leave 6 months of cash for my emergency fund and the rest I plan on investing in VTSAX through Vanguard.
I'll second the caution here. To help frame this, how much home are we talking in terms of $? Are you buying this or are the two of you buying (and owning) this?

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Fidelity 401K: $38,695. My company does not match. I just increased my contribution to start maxing it out from now till future. I can only pick target funds for this.

I'm pretty okay with target date funds. Make sure you're picking the right risk mix not just a year that sounds good =).

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Fidelity Roth IRA: $44,711. I'm unsure if I could convert this to traditional as my pension and withdrawals may end up increasing my income
when I'm 65 and withdrawing about 4% and collecting a pension that could be as much as $50,000 a year. Depending on what the cost of moving this IRA to Vanguard would be I may or may not switch this. Either way I plan on moving the money into low cost index funds, worst case scenario low cost index funds w/ Fidelity or move it all to Vanguard
So the real reason I'm commenting at all is this section. Are we correct that this is already Roth? If so, there is no 'converting' to be done with this, it is already in the most tax advantageous account possible for any income scenario*. There is no 'convert to traditional' with the exception being a single year's contributions i.e. if you contributed $X** to Roth IRA this year and want to know if you should re-characterize it to traditional for this tax year. This is all very good news by the way =).
That is separate from what you do going forward, for future contributions, of course. It is definitely worth running some numbers to figure out if you are best served contributing to traditional or Roth. I mentioned a little about the pension income and tax brackets above, but I'll add this here:
1) If you retire early, you might have many years to convert traditional to Roth before the pension kicks in at all
2) If the two of you get married the lowest tax bracket might be much higher than your expected pension + other withdrawals necessary to meet your expenses. In general, look at the tax brackets now to help you make this choice, and there are lots of calculators out there to help you with this.
2b) Also, if you are making other withdrawals to taxable accounts remember that only the gains count (e.g. sell $10,000 worth of stock for $10,000 of expenses but only $2700 of that was gains).
3) Read the gocurrycracker blog posts about never paying taxes again for some more in-depth conversation about this
4) If you want to move to Vanguard I always recommend calling them up and having them initiate things so you don't accidentally trigger a taxable event when you really just want an in-kind transfer =). Trust us, they'll be super helpful, given that you're basically saying 'I want to give you 0.x% of my money, can you help with that?" ;). The cost should be free as should the hassle. I will say that Fidelity and Vanguard probably aren't that different.
5) Also keep in mind that traditional vs. Roth involves a fair amount of guessing about future tax structures which is a bit like guessing what days it's going to snow in 2045 - probably in the winter months, but beyond that who knows. Don't stress too much about it!
6) A thing some people forget is that if you do an IRA ladder it's not like you need to pay exactly 0 taxes for it to be considered a success. To illustrate, sometimes saving a 30% marginal rate now is worth paying a 10% tax rate and paying the early withdrawal penalty later.

*that doesn't imply that getting to this point was the most optimal scenario, necessarily.
** max of $6,000

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No debt as we do not own a home, I paid off my student loans, my car is also paid off.

Monthly Expenses:
Rent $500
Union Dues $65
Internet $105
Cell Phone w/ iPhone bill $135
Utilities $90
Groceries $301
Car Insurance $100
Gasoline $150
Car Maintenance $50
Hair/Eyebrows $110
Pure Barre   $179
Misc $100
Restaurants $50
Entertainment $30
Shopping $21
Travel $300

Total Expenses: $2286
Monthly Income after Taxes:$5193

Annual 401k contribution: $19500
Annual IRA contribution: $6000

My plan is to do the IRA conversion ladder to be able to withdraw and also withdraw from non retirement account such as Vanguard investments, if I am understanding everything correctly. I am very fortunate as we currently live in my parents duplex on the opposite side and our rent money goes to them. My father has said that the home will be left completely to me, I am a dental hygienist and plan to temp part-time once I reach my FI goal. I don't know if this factors into anything as well.
I'd say working part-time gives you a lot of flexibility, might lower healthcare costs, and might protect against downside risk. It might lower the value of your IRA ladder but probably not a meaningful amount given your listed expenses.
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My questions are:
1) How do I/if I even should calculate my pension into this plan? I have not seen any way of calculating a pension into FIRE that I understand
You might consider a common way to do this, looking into "bucket" approaches. In those approaches you might write down your expected budget for every year and then calculate out how you're going to fund each individual year. I'm not an expert, but the thought might run along the lines of: if we retire at 44 I need to fund 21 years until the pension shows up and covers my expenses for the rest of my life. (If we ignore the stock market making it easier than this) that means I expect to need 21 years * 12 months * 2286 in expenses each month + a buffer saved up, plus whatever my pension-expenses projects to be if nonzero.

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2) Does this seem doable in 10 years?
3) Does anyone have recommendations for what I should do with Fidelity Roth IRA
Ignore the exact numbers.
Let's say you put half of your current cash into a taxable account and your vacation home breaks even in ongoing expenses.
That puts your current invested total at 60 + 38 + 45 = 143k.
Let's suggest you add nothing but 401k and IRA for the next 10 years, at 25k a year and get 0 real returns. That puts you at 143 + 250 = 393k in today's dollars 10 years.
Your annual expenses* today suggest you need (2286*12*25) = $685,800 in today's dollars if you choose to use the 4% rule, so you'd be short about 290k.
It is a little unclear if your $5193 monthly take home is after maxing your 401k but if it is, and you invest your monthly surplus (5193-2286) ten** months a year for the next 10 years and get 0 real return that's an additional..... 290k.
So, my answer to the question "does this seem doable in 10 years" is this:
If your expenses don't change above inflation, you don't further optimize your expenses at all, you never get a raise above your personal rate of inflation (but also, like, don't get fired), you're missing accounting for about $4,000 per year in expenses due to lumpiness of some expenses in the real world / bad luck, you find out your pension is actually worth $0, the market has a very, very bad 10 years, and you never inherit the duplex and subsequent rental income from it, you'll probably be within spitting distance of FI at the 4%*** rule at the 10 year mark.
So, yes this very much does seem doable =).

*Over the next 10 years you should consider what expenses you don't have now but you will have, or will want to have, once you retire. That might be health insurance for 45 year olds including deductible / out of pocket max (ACA subsidies may make this expense very low if it still exists), income taxes if you'll have any though it's unlikely at this expense level, or more traveling or hobby money since you're building the life you want and then saving for it not the other way around.
** life happens, so this won't happen 12 months a year. You might need to buy a new car, pay for a surgery, etc. etc. over a 10 year period.
*** some people think 3.5% rule makes more sense from a peace of mind during retirement standpoint. Over the next 5 years read about this and see how you feel.
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This is all so confusing, thank you guys for any and all advice.

Marissa

Overall you are in great shape. The good news too is that you have, like, 10 years to figure this out, you're already 85% of the way to figuring it all out, and every year you take to figure it out the amount you have to get right for it all to go well goes down as your margin of error goes up since your nest egg is growing all the while =). Keep learning, keep saving, keep building the life you want (which probably doesn't involve checking financial spreadsheets every day). Track your expenses and change it where it makes sense but don't obsess over it, nurture your relationships, and have fun!

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2020, 03:33:14 PM »
Great questions! All the answers so far good too.

Re doable in 10 years: Roughly, yes, unless marriage affects it. Here's my reasoning.

1. Your current spending rate appears to be 2286/5193 = 44%.
2. Therefore your savings rate is 100 - 44 = 56%. Very good!
3. According to MMM's article on savings rates, that implies about 14.5 years to retirement if you started from zero net worth. https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/2012/01/13/the-shockingly-simple-math-behind-early-retirement/
4. You've already got about $200,000 saved up, and (if I read correctly) no debt. Counting investment returns, you're about 5 years into the plan. So another 10 years is about right to hit FI.

That assumes your investments will produce at normal levels. I have read elsewhere on the forums that "vacation homes" are often less productive than the standard stock-and-bond-funds type of portfolio, so if you're going to rely on income from it, study the financials of this purchase very carefully. My personal opinion (as someone whose income is about 50% from real estate) is that real estate is a business, not a passive investment, which means it's easier to lose money than one would think - the ways to lose include operational issues on the owner's part and things that relate to your specific property, not just market factors. I have a friend who bought a rental property in a good market that went up, yet he lost tens of thousands of dollars on it in three years. Distinguish between pleasure and investment if need be and plan accordingly. You can get what you want (peace, freedom, bucolic lifestyle, whatever it might be) but be open to modifying the means of achieving it.

If something were to disturb your steady pace, such as unexpected problems with parents, or a husband who saves less rapidly, those would be risks that would drag you down. All the other factors in your original post, such as pension and part time work, uplift you. So it sounds like your romantic partner is the big question mark.

PS. My calculation above is before counting your pension. Forum member @chasesfish wrote a great article on how to value pensions.
https://stopironingshirts.com/2019/11/24/how-much-is-that-pension-worth/

It gives detailed background, but boils down to clicking on the link below and entering your data.
https://www.schwab.com/public/schwab/investing/accounts_products/investment/annuities/income_annuity/fixed_income_annuity_calculator
« Last Edit: February 09, 2020, 05:37:25 PM by BicycleB »

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #6 on: February 11, 2020, 12:47:00 PM »
Thank you all so much. It has taken me a few days to go over and respond but I truly appreciate everyones help and advice. You guys have all given me and my partner things to think about.

@Lucky13 Thank you! The plan was originally short-term after I saw what I could make off of selling my condo, however, we have decided long-term as the benefits completely out weight any nuisances, lol.

@SwordGuy Thank you! Yeah I have a lot of budget things I need to redo and improve and wanted to leave it with what I was currently spending. The vacation home would not necessarily be to make money but we were hoping enough to cover the mortgage and utilities, a few properties that we have considered have shown us their rental amounts (taking that all with a grain of salt) but looks like more than enough to cover those costs which would bring down our personal travel costs. I'm definitely going to be check out that cFIRE simulator.

@RWTL Thank you! Currently I don't pay for medical except $15 copays for appts, if I reach FI paying for health insurance will definitely be my biggest expense. I'm definitely going to be checking out the cFIRE simulator.

@swashbucklinstache You are correct in that the numbers are my own. I've been getting my partner more and more into this idea. He was a little reluctant at first but after listening to some chooseFI podcasts and hearing my plans of what I want to do when I reach FI he's starting his own research and getting on board. We do not have the option of a lump sum and we are always told in our union meetings that we are in good standing, however, I take this with a grain of salt and I have always done my own retirement savings as I do not count on anything until it is in my hand as opposed to some members who are only relying on the pension. Before taxes my salary is $89,128 and we get an annual raise of 3%, in the last 20 years I believe there as only been 1 year that they did not give out raises. If we decide to purchase a home it would be together but most of the deposit would come out of the high yield savings account and we'd sign a contract that if we sell the home I'd get that money back. I just moved my Roth IRA money to Fidelity FXAIX from the random funds that I picked as opposed to transferring it to Vanguard. The taxes and everything is really where I get lost, especially the capital gains and loses, I have my appt with my CPA next week and plan to talk to him a bit more about the benefits of getting married, owning the home, capital gains, etc.

@BicycleB Thank you! I find the tax stuff to be the hardest for me to understand so we are looking into what would benefit us more. After this weekend and having him listen to podcasts about FIRE he has become on board and thankfully not a big spender. We are considering marriage even more now as that would save him about $300 a month on healthcare. I'm definitely going to check out that article. We are still considering the vacation home but not as profit but hopefully rent it out enough to pay the mortgage, we have also considered rental properties or even possibly flipping, however, the housing market in our area is crazy and we are nervous to start down that path.

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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #7 on: February 11, 2020, 01:26:29 PM »

@BicycleB We are still considering the vacation home but not as profit but hopefully rent it out enough to pay the mortgage, we have also considered rental properties or even possibly flipping, however, the housing market in our area is crazy and we are nervous to start down that path.

There's no need to own rental properties or do flipping - stocks and bonds and pensions will let you FIRE without the risks and effort of real estate.

If it sounds FUN to you, fine (so long as you tread with care and learn the business aspects). Bear in mind of course that a "crazy" housing market may be one where "nervous" means "your gut is right, don't buy in that market." Proceed if both the numbers and your desires say yes. Otherwise enhance your thought process by reading stuff like:

https://www.thesimpledollar.com/loans/home/does-it-make-sense-to-never-own-a-home/
https://www.businessinsider.com/reasons-not-to-buy-a-home-financial-planner-2018-7
https://www.moneyunder30.com/why-your-house-is-not-an-investment

https://www.investopedia.com/articles/mortgages-real-estate/08/house-flip.asp

Based on the good news you offer re your beau, you two can probably pull this off in any manner you want. You really have the chance to create a life that suits you best. Keep us posted.   :)
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Re: Case Study: New to FI and confused
« Reply #8 on: February 11, 2020, 03:29:14 PM »
Thank you all so much. It has taken me a few days to go over and respond but I truly appreciate everyones help and advice. You guys have all given me and my partner things to think about.

@Lucky13 Thank you! The plan was originally short-term after I saw what I could make off of selling my condo, however, we have decided long-term as the benefits completely out weight any nuisances, lol.

@SwordGuy Thank you! Yeah I have a lot of budget things I need to redo and improve and wanted to leave it with what I was currently spending. The vacation home would not necessarily be to make money but we were hoping enough to cover the mortgage and utilities, a few properties that we have considered have shown us their rental amounts (taking that all with a grain of salt) but looks like more than enough to cover those costs which would bring down our personal travel costs. I'm definitely going to be check out that cFIRE simulator.

@RWTL Thank you! Currently I don't pay for medical except $15 copays for appts, if I reach FI paying for health insurance will definitely be my biggest expense. I'm definitely going to be checking out the cFIRE simulator.

@swashbucklinstache You are correct in that the numbers are my own. I've been getting my partner more and more into this idea. He was a little reluctant at first but after listening to some chooseFI podcasts and hearing my plans of what I want to do when I reach FI he's starting his own research and getting on board. We do not have the option of a lump sum and we are always told in our union meetings that we are in good standing, however, I take this with a grain of salt and I have always done my own retirement savings as I do not count on anything until it is in my hand as opposed to some members who are only relying on the pension. Before taxes my salary is $89,128 and we get an annual raise of 3%, in the last 20 years I believe there as only been 1 year that they did not give out raises. If we decide to purchase a home it would be together but most of the deposit would come out of the high yield savings account and we'd sign a contract that if we sell the home I'd get that money back. I just moved my Roth IRA money to Fidelity FXAIX from the random funds that I picked as opposed to transferring it to Vanguard. The taxes and everything is really where I get lost, especially the capital gains and loses, I have my appt with my CPA next week and plan to talk to him a bit more about the benefits of getting married, owning the home, capital gains, etc.

@BicycleB Thank you! I find the tax stuff to be the hardest for me to understand so we are looking into what would benefit us more. After this weekend and having him listen to podcasts about FIRE he has become on board and thankfully not a big spender. We are considering marriage even more now as that would save him about $300 a month on healthcare. I'm definitely going to check out that article. We are still considering the vacation home but not as profit but hopefully rent it out enough to pay the mortgage, we have also considered rental properties or even possibly flipping, however, the housing market in our area is crazy and we are nervous to start down that path.
Glad we didn't scare you away! =)
On taxes, do talk to a CPA but know that Roth IRA more or less means no capital gains to worry about at all. Do talk about the other things! One more thing to add to your research given this reply - in your state, do you need to get married to have your partner on your health insurance plan? The answer is not always 'yes'.

Not to add to the tax anxiety, but you could ask the owners of homes for their tax statements regarding rent - they're less likely to be inflating numbers to the IRS =). Also, if this is an 80k home or something all of that is less of a big deal than, say, 350k.

FIRE community tips:
There is a sticky thread on these forums about 'how to convince your s/o to do all this'. It is more focused on real life approaches than tricking someone into it. I'm a big advocate of the 80/20 rule when it comes to personal finances and focusing on the big expense / recurring expenses categories first. You have ~10 years to figure this out.

In general, to help you use this site better, check out the sticky threads. Unlike a lot of sites they provide a lot of value.

If you want to search these forums for a topic don't use the search bar, use Google and search within the forum.mrmoneymustache.com site by searching like this quotes:
site:forum.mrmoneymustache.com marriage penalty

Consider starting a journal.
Consider revisiting this thread and/or a journal periodically.
Consider signing up for Mint or Personal Capital or similar to track your spending, but consider building a spreadsheet too.

Read other FI sites as you get further into it, maybe not for a few years:
Reddit has a few subreddits - financialindependence, leanfire, fatfire, etc.
Some other sites have much more in-depth takes on related things - the right # for your stache to be once you get close (https://earlyretirementnow.com/safe-withdrawal-rate-series/)
psychology related to quitting (https://livingafi.com/ under Post Collections - The Quit Series).
etc.

Have fun and don't overdo it!

 

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