Introduction:
My family and I are currently expats living overseas and recently ran into money difficulties. We were making headway on the debt, and things have changed rather quickly.
Recently we drained our emergency fund and all sinking funds to cover the living expenses for the last 2 months and to pay rent (11k) and we all had to travel back to the states for an comprehensive autism appointment, it was very short notice and the medical providers required prepayment beforehand. We don’t have medical insurance back home in the states. Prior to that it was a very frequent car repairs (from being on the road) and all payments were completed in cash. Our medical insurance here changed requiring us to pay more out of pocket fee—and last week DS1 was hospitalized for 3 days with pneumonia .
Here a lot of things require cash payments, full upfront or big installments. This includes housing (bi-annually), school tuition, visas, etc… Big Expenses like rent are paid in checks. Bouncing a check here will cost you jail time. We have never bounced a check.
Admission- We are currently behind on all of our bills.
Honestly I didn’t know where to start. (Some may say; just leave) That takes money, a job, and my DS#2 loves it here. But that is the plan when debts have been paid, and we have savings. As of right now we do not have anyone to help us if we move back home.
Current amount of Debt-
25k in credit card debt (both here and the states)
Student loans-110k (both together)
70k VA debt (currently fighting this with lawyer)
10k of previous medical debt from the states
5K total of other stupid tax stuff
Current Budget –
For this next year we want to pay about 15k total for housing here. That is the most realistic that’s about $1250 per month for here. We also pay $670 for the place in the states
Expenses Amount Comment Charity 20 Emergency Fund BS 1 200 6 month Emergency Fund (sf) 50 Just in case anything happens and we need to go back to the states to live urgently Housing Savings 1250 Electrical sf 75 Gas sf 40 Water sf 75 Phone/Moblie 200 All 3 people Internet 110 no choice lowest package Cable 0 We don’t have it Groceries 500 Resturants/ Fast Food 30 we are on the road a lot Clothing 10 Cleaning and Laundry 5 on special items Kids Transportation 550 DW 110 DH 540 Car License, Car Insurance, Taxes, fees, fines (sf) 200 Car Replacement sf 50 Car Maintance sf 50 Medication sf 20 Dentist sf 25 Eye Doctor sf 5 Doctors sf 50 Life Insurance 160 Renters (sf) states 20 Tuition DS 1 1800 no free school here for expats ( will turn into a sf for sons college ) Tuition DS 2 1800 no free school here for expats College Fund (sf) 1166 This will go away after son's first semester in college Karate DS#1 25 All monthly Debt Payments in states 500 Co op house in states 670 Credit Cards 900 Health Insurance in states for DS#2 for college 150 Childcare/Baby Sitter 0 Oldest Son Toiletries 10 Cosmetrics/ Hair Care 60 haircuts and wife Pet Supplies (turtle) 2 Hoildays and Gifts (sf) 10 Books and Supplies 30 to include wifes teaching supplies Language Tutor 190 we don’t speak the native lanuage its for both of our boys Pocket Money 0 We don’t ever have any Replacement Household items (sf) 10 School Activities (sf) 20 Vacation (sf) 0 We don’t deserve Moving Expenses (sf) 140 will be downsizing in July Rental Car 381 wife refuses to get a car note Kids Allowance 20 DS#1 gets money when he helps his mother with her clients
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What my wife is doing about the Debt- working a full time job (teaching) and has 3 clients for tutoring. She is allowed to do this without permission from her employer, she not on the same type visa as myself
What I am doing about the Debt- First, let me say I am prohibited from getting a part time job unless it is under the table. I thought about bouncing at a club but wife is against that….( says it’s not a place a married man should be) She prefers I help with the housework and things that she can’t do in the house. Now to what I can do? I am thinking about a size hustle, flipping items as I tried it before and it would only take (about $300 cost) and made back about 2k from it. The problem however, is getting stuff in a steady supply because the demand is there (this is being worked on as I type). I also, drive my wife to one of her clients that it’s an 1hour away twice a week.
What DS#1 is doing: He was helping my wife with one of her clients (Which we cancelled last week). He helps tremendously by watching and playing with his brother and picking him up and dropping him off from school.
What DS#1 is doing: He was helping my wife with one of her clients (Which we cancelled last week). He helps tremendously by watching and playing with his brother and picking him up and dropping him off from school.
Upcoming Events-
DS#1’s College Tuition (July)
DS#2 Autism Appointments (July)
Downsizing to a smaller place, less expensive place (we want to cut this bill in half (it was about 22k per year)
(Reconnecting of utilities after move)
1st check for rent (It has to be a least 6 months)
Continued medical therapy appointments for DS#2
Special circumstances:
When DS #1 goes to college wife will have to find a new job, which finishes early so that she can pick up or drop off DS1 or not work or stay at home. We looked at potential online teaching jobs for students. I want to move to a different work site (which is about 20 minutes away) it should have been up and running, but huge construction delays(actually this was the main reason I moved to this area was to already be situated and it has better schools)
Negative Effects:
Money fights, and just plain fights because the wife does not feel that I am doing enough to help the situation, and moving slow. Wife has serious frequent migraines (which came before all this)
She feels guilty when the kids have something at school and she cannot attend because she is working, (either myself or my oldest attends)
We are out of the house over 13 hours a day
Questions-
The client that she dropped last week were rude, she did not go this week and they are calling her to apologize and go back. I told her not to go back. However, she is considering it? She very focused on paying down the debt and getting money for our oldest son to go college. The time, energy, aggravation, and money is not worth it in my opinion. Three times the amount of hours is spent on them than what was originally agreed to and they don’t want to pay for the extra hours. Do you think it would be wise to go back. She thinks setting better ground rules would better the situation.
Does anyone see in anywhere in the budget that can we can be changed as we are rebuilding everything. ( We sit here with empty envelopes)
Any other suggestions?