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Learning, Sharing, and Teaching => Ask a Mustachian => Topic started by: Bones on February 26, 2017, 11:02:05 AM

Title: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: Bones on February 26, 2017, 11:02:05 AM
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: GizmoTX on February 26, 2017, 11:27:40 AM
Your credit card debt is the first priority to knock out. Retain an emergency fund, especially with a house. Then invest.

What are your prospects for increasing your income? $20K seems very low.

Have you given your X an eviction notice for August? With a cushy deal like that, what's the incentive for her to ever move out? What if she doesn't have a job after graduation? Or she says it's not enough to live on? You don't want to wait to start eviction proceedings after August, because (depending on the laws where you live) she could continue to live there for months after you start proceedings. Start them now, so you know she has plenty of time to make the move out happen in August. Since her parents are familiar with eviction proceedings, no doubt they know what they can get away with. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, but it could get worse. Hopefully she won't trash the house.


Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: mxt0133 on February 26, 2017, 11:30:20 AM
Welcome to the forums. Even tough you are in a tough spot right now financially and relationship wise, the up side is that you are young and income wise have a lot of room to improve, at 20K net you are at basically minimum wage levels. 

You can get a part-time job or go back to school to find a higher paying job.  Once you get the house situation straighten out, get roommates and have them pay your mortgage.  Continue to work on your expenses and spend the time to reflect and find out what really brings you happiness.  I'm not talking about the short-term happiness you get from buying something new or taking an exotic trip, focus on what you value and if your actions are in alignment with them.

Above all that if you really want to stabilize your finances in the long run be very selective of who you date/marry.  Nothing will derail your financial goals worse than a spouse that is not on board the MMM train or worse end up getting divorced. 
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: Iplawyer on February 26, 2017, 11:37:49 AM
You should have your X sign a lease right away.  The terms would be what reasonable rent would be and an absolute termination date.  Include a clause that if she moves out on X date then t he rent will be forgiven.  If she doesn't then it is immediately due and payable on the spot.  Then you will have a document to use to evict her legally.  If she doesn't sign it - Kick her out now.
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: GizmoTX on February 26, 2017, 12:08:04 PM
You should have your X sign a lease right away.  The terms would be what reasonable rent would be and an absolute termination date.  Include a clause that if she moves out on X date then t he rent will be forgiven.  If she doesn't then it is immediately due and payable on the spot.  Then you will have a document to use to evict her legally.  If she doesn't sign it - Kick her out now.

+1
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: the_fixer on February 26, 2017, 12:36:54 PM
I would be worried about her trashing the house or moving in her family / new boyfriend / friends and delaying eviction.

Once you have her out of the house if you keep the house and move back in you could rent out the extra bedrooms, basement, garage and even the couch especially if you are in an area where there is a college.

I have a few friends that did that in college and it worked out great and while you are young it is not as hard to share a space with people.
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: Bones on February 26, 2017, 12:49:19 PM
Thank you for the input everybody. I had drawn up a preliminary lease/eviction notice after 6 months with my dad and had his lawyer friend look over it (for free, and his wife is a real estate lawyer so it worked really well). I had set that by the wayside and I will pick that back up and pick a date and be firm with it and have the legal system on my side to back me up.

Besides that (I know that's the eye-catching thing in that novel that I wrote) how doesn't everything else sound?

I get paid $14 per hour currently and from an online calculator that equates to approximately $29k. I do have a four year degree (environmental science with a minor in forestry - specialized in GIS/natural resources). There is definitely opportunity to get paid more there. I went and looked at jobs after reading your posts and found 2 that I will apply to. At my current job I am the front runner for a promotion at the end of the year that would equate to 37k per year but I told my boss that I would for sure need a raise between now and then and even then I'm not sure that I could make it work. If I got offered the 37k right now I would take it but I will start shopping around and see what else is out there. He said reviews are in a week or so and that he will see what he can do. I will still keep looking though.

Thanks for your input everybody!

I am planning on getting one roommate with me once I move back in. You couldn't really have more than that with the way the house is set up (basement is non-livable, no garage, and the only other option for a bedroom you can barely fit a bed in there so probably just one roommate, which would help a lot).
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: Linea_Norway on February 26, 2017, 01:15:27 PM
I don't see why your X is living in your house for free, while you pay for the house. Let her pay some rent or rent out a room to another (normal) person while she lives there. You must be allowed to make some money on the house from now on.
Title: Re: Young Person Looking For Advice
Post by: marty998 on February 26, 2017, 01:38:20 PM
Notice you wrote up a gigantic spiel about all the benefits and justifications on the credit cards.

Until you're in a position to use them responsibly (i.e. paying off balance in full each month) please do not fall for any of the marketing about rewards and cash backs etc... like spending $4000 to receive $1000 back.... you're still $3,000 in the hole.

This is how they get you hooked and paying interest for a long time - they make much more notwithstanding the giveaways.