Yes - I am obsessed, and burned out.
I monitor my accounts daily; I've finally figured out when they all update and only check it 2x a day now. 6ishPM and 9:30ishPM PST.
I'm frustrated that I have another 5-10 years to go; but, I also focus a ton on saving more, and have a goal to exceed what I "need" to leave the workforce... so, I am suffering through the pain, even though it may not be the best for my health.
Few things that may help:
1. when you take vacations; maybe consider taking longer vacations (don't just take a day off here and there, it takes a while to "deflate" from the stress)... don't take your work email with you.... I have a habit of staying plugged in when I'm on vacation.
2. work less, do your job, do it well, but define your boundaries and stick to them... work your 8 hours, take your lunches (I never take lunch) - go home and focus on you, your family and your future...
3. now that you have the savings part almost complete, spend your spare time ensuring you have a solid withdraw plan (not just 4% withdraw) - make sure your withdrawal plan is tax efficient.
4. based on number 2 above, maybe (just mayyyybe) you could be self creating an opportunity to be laid off? being laid off gives you income from unemployment which reduces the amount you would need from your nest egg...
5. lastly, personally the stress of the job is real.. .it's depressing.. but not hitting your goal and having the money you need during your FI would also be depressing... meet or beat your savings goal... piece of mind... liquid savings, taxable savings, IRA (trad and roth if married), HSA, and 401k... these still leave you with social security and pension (if you have one at your job) as cushions .. I don't calculate pension or social security in my FI / early retirement... if they are there, they are bonuses for me.
6. ok, lastly, lastly; you're 38... make yourself feel better - I'm 45 and it looks like 55 is the EARLIEST I can even consider making a choice for change.. you are ahead of the curve (way ahead)... remember that... you've done what a lot of people claim they can't or won't do... and you did it by 38-43 years old.... sit back and remember... YOU ROCKED IT!!!
the above is creating distractions really, so you can last a bit longer in your current job. But, if you can't or won't continue with your work - feel free to take a lower paying job that you enjoy... allow the savings to grow without contribution (of course this will delay your FI/retirement date a little, but you will be less stressed)
Looking forward to more of your posts and successes.
Best Regards,
Steve