Author Topic: Would YOU feel resentful? And how to get over it...  (Read 24551 times)

Bruised_Pepper

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Re: Would YOU feel resentful? And how to get over it...
« Reply #50 on: January 08, 2014, 06:18:36 PM »
My point is that there is another side to this, and from a parent's perspective, unlike a sibling's perspective, treating the children all equally is not the only consideration, or even a big factor in the decision.

I disagree with your conclusions, but examining the situation from a parent's perspective is a valid goal (and probably just what this discussion needs). 

Emg03063

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Re: Would YOU feel resentful? And how to get over it...
« Reply #51 on: January 12, 2014, 12:26:19 PM »
My Dad bailed my less financially responsible than me brother out of a few financial jams (a no interest loan to address credit card debt, and a no interest loan to finance grad school which he then flunked out of, which included living expenses to include a room in Manhattan despite the fact that he could have lived in my parents house in NJ for free--this was to preserve my Dad's sanity).  I used to feel resentful about it (both loans have since been repaid in full), but then my dad loaned me $30k interest free so I could refi my negative equity house, cutting my interest rate from 5.5% to 2.25%, and then put my loan into forbearance when I lost my job.  I don't feel resentful anymore.  Food for thought.