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MakingSenseofCents

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Re: Would YOU feel resentful? And how to get over it...
« Reply #50 on: January 08, 2014, 04:27:37 PM »
ACK. I have heard of this many times. The parents need to be talked to. It is their choice with how they want to spend their money, but this would make me extremely mad.

Bruised_Pepper

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Re: Would YOU feel resentful? And how to get over it...
« Reply #51 on: January 08, 2014, 06:18:36 PM »
My point is that there is another side to this, and from a parent's perspective, unlike a sibling's perspective, treating the children all equally is not the only consideration, or even a big factor in the decision.

I disagree with your conclusions, but examining the situation from a parent's perspective is a valid goal (and probably just what this discussion needs). 

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Re: Would YOU feel resentful? And how to get over it...
« Reply #52 on: January 12, 2014, 12:26:19 PM »
My Dad bailed my less financially responsible than me brother out of a few financial jams (a no interest loan to address credit card debt, and a no interest loan to finance grad school which he then flunked out of, which included living expenses to include a room in Manhattan despite the fact that he could have lived in my parents house in NJ for free--this was to preserve my Dad's sanity).  I used to feel resentful about it (both loans have since been repaid in full), but then my dad loaned me $30k interest free so I could refi my negative equity house, cutting my interest rate from 5.5% to 2.25%, and then put my loan into forbearance when I lost my job.  I don't feel resentful anymore.  Food for thought.