Just to give people an update.
It has gotten so bad sometimes even if I'm in a great mood, I dread running into at work. She is leaving at the end of the month but still, we have so much work to do we need to be productive, but it's hard. She continues to use her spreadsheets. She is not giving feedback when her spreadsheets don't match what the reports do (she refuses to use the reports). Despite ignoring that request she is micromanaging tasks she does not need to. This weekend since her laptop was not connecting at home, she texted my personal cell, one day multiple times starting at 6:30 am on a Saturday, both to ask me to do something (which I agreed to). She continued to text me on my personal phone Sunday and Monday as well as to order me to do stuff (things that were my job, and I had already done on Friday). I ended up ignoring the last few texts. We had a meeting and people were wishing her best wishes. And I piped up and said, maybe we can all go out to lunch. And she stares at me for a moment and says "I don't think so". I was embarrassed, and the group was silent for a moment because it was obvious she doesn't like me.
Anyways I'm extremely busy at work. About 10 days ago I emailed my boss a bunch of docs to electronically sign. I only see an email from her with 3 of the docs attached. So I sent a couple emails reminding her to sign, let her know I put paper copies to sign in her mailbox, and also resent the docs electronically if she could do that way. I come in this morning and she emails me, I already did this, call me. Sure enough I look and there is a follow up email with all but 2, 3 docs needed attached. So I call her and she said, what's going on, I sent you these and you missed it, what is going on? And I apologize, and blurt out that actually I am feeling a little off balance with some interactions with (coworker). And basically boss says, yes you are not the only one.
She wants me to talk with her tomorrow before she write something up.
So anyways I've been feeling very emotional. If I was better with confrontation maybe this wouldn't have gotten so out of hand. At the same time I will need to document some of the stuff that has happened and try to find a way to make it constructive.
Anyways I feel pretty emotional. I feel I should have been honest and come to my boss a lot sooner that this was actually becoming a problem.