Hi Mustachians, where do you find your tribe if you're a bit of an oddball?
I think I've ended up a bit of an oddball and seem to not really have a niche where I can say 'hey that fits for me.
Example; I've been salsa dancing for years, and I've heard off a few people that I'm not the kind of person they would expect to be dancing, as I have tattoos and also like martial arts and in my younger days was partial to the occasional street fight or two and have a scar on my forehead where I got hit with a beer glass by a bouncer. But I really like salsa dancing.
I'm from the UK and have ended up living in a neighbourhood in Canada thats mostly Chinese families. I like my neighbours, but again it's a bit of a mismatch when looking for people to hang out with.
I like to go the gym, ski sometimes and eat healthy, drink in moderation, look after my stash. But my old group of friends that I know through punk rock music, I've known for years like to knock the beers back, never ever go to the gym and ski about once every 5 to 10 years.
Boring hanging out on my own too much though... Any thoughts?
Occasionally a friend of old will suggest going on a trip together, but I just know we have a different travel style and we wouldn't get along as they'd want to mostly hit the bars. I've started just going to the bars anyway and having a cup of tea.
I went to yoga the other day, I was the only guy there. Might sound good but I'm this tattooed guy who genuinely likes it, not there just to try pick up the gals. I went to Zumba and same thing.
Also noticed I'm often the oldest at things I end up doing. Yoga (not always at yoga but often) , martial arts, down the gym... sometimes I think I've failed to realise that I got older. But then I wonder what others around my age are doing? I guess a lot are raising kids, and I have a daughter but I was 22 when she was born and she's 33 now, and I have 2 grandkids, I also have a half brother thats the same age as my oldest grandchild, and I'm young to be a granddad anyway I guess.
My dads a musician, I went to art school and my oldest grandkid is an actress, she had a lead role in a movie a couple of years back and does quite well.
Also I raised my daughter on my own since she was 3, that was a kind of an oddball time too, as I don't know any guys doing it and single moms and single mother groups kind of looked at me as OK, but different and would tolerate but not really include.
Anyway bit of a ramble, but reading it back to myself does sound a bit 'different'