So, I love MMM and everything people stand for here, and I am a believer. My problem is that I find it very difficult to legitimize spending money in most non-typical cases, because I have 6 figures of student loan debt. My savings rate is around 50%. I live in a low low COL area (housing PITI is less than $600/month, as an example).
How dare I spend money on anything other than loans, I say. How dare I....But LIFE. It happens, and it costs money. Here are some examples:
1. I have a brother who is fighting for custody of his daughter. I believe my brother getting custody is in the best interest of the child for many reasons. My brother has a decent job, but makes bad decisions with money. Before the custody thing. I had been helping him with that (pointed him to Republic Wireless, MMM, etc) and I think he is getting better, but he has no money other than his 401K to pay legal fees for the custody battle. I feel compelled to help him with the legal fees, but I am not sure if this will be enabling, and even if it is, does it matter if it means he gets custody of his daughter/my niece? COST: 1-10K depending on how nasty it gets.
2. For years I have wanted to buy a nicer road bike. I have been riding my single speed steel road bike from the late 80s for 5 years and I love it, but I can't really do the long rides on it. These longer rides are hobby/recreation/exercise rides and the steel road bike is fine for around town. I didn't even go look at nicer bikes bc debt was looming over me. But I am getting tired of waiting, and cycling is one of the only forms of exercise that doesn't aggravate my bad knee (odd, I know). COST: 1K
3. Other hobbies: pottery, beekeeping, coffee roasting. These are not amazingly expensive on their own, but they have costs associated with them. I work at the pottery studio in exchange for studio time and access to materials, so that keeps costs down. Beekeeping costs about $100-300 per year depending on the supplies. Coffee roasting is on my wish list, but I know over time I will probably make money back....I could sell pots, honey, and roasted coffee, but I have this problem of just giving stuff away...:) COST: $200-$500/year
I guess the problem is I want to do fun things now and not wait until all my student loans are paid, because that would mean my life is totally on pause for the next 8 years, and I have already been on pause for 7 years. I feel compelled to save save save and pay on the loans, but it's not like a few thousand dollars will take years off my debt repayment. My budget can absorb some of these costs (legal fees may require dipping into my emergency fund).
Am I just complainypants here? Any thoughts?
***edited for bad typing