No problem if it's not for you, but your criticisms imply generalities that are not really accurate. I do agree that low density land use is an issue. The rich elite call it "protecting open spaces." A major problem here, tbh, but one that has little to do with standard of living, outside the very bloated housing costs. Mountain View is actually one of my least favorite suburbs, with it's overly manufactured yet underwhelming downtown, so condolences if that was your only exposure to the many fantastic options around here. Probably should not have included that in my examples.
You also must not use your bike or walk as a mode of transportation, which is fair enough a reason to be upset that our public transit is indeed quite mediocre, if not plain bad (excepting train service to and from SF). But for those that don't mind hopping on a bike, it's pretty easy to get around, bike to work, etc.
I live in Santa Clara, which doesn't even have a downtown excepting my proximity to Santana Row, which is even more manufactured and overrated than Mountain View. And yet, I walk or ride my bike to the library or delicious and affordable restaurants all the time, have been on over a dozen completely different hiking experiences this summer without taking longer than 30 minutes to bike/drive to any of them, experienced several amazing cultural events, taken the train to SF (an "actual city," I would propose) several times, and taken cheap road trips to Santa Cruz, Monterrey, Wine Country, and even the Sierras. All of this with endless sunshine and moderate temperatures.
I would still probably enjoy living in the PNW, for example, and I fully acknowledge there are plenty of downsides to the Bay Area, but I really can't give much credit to people who try to claim that they would never consider moving here because it's "suburban hell." Sounds like a very techbro elitist stance, tbh. Plus I am proof that worries about savings rates are overblown (unless you are a low skill worker in which case this place really is the worst). A 25 year old engineer will probably out-earn the combined income of my household, and yet we still save tons and are on track to FIRE without ever moving away.
YMMV.