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Title: What age did you move out?
Post by: journey2financialfreedom on February 06, 2015, 12:50:51 AM
And why ?

Just curious when you guys (and girls) decided to move out of yourparents homes. I don't want to move out super early and have the all the extra costs associated, but also don't want to be known as the dude still living with parents.

(If this poll is in the wrong place let me know and I'll delete it)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: marty998 on February 06, 2015, 01:24:49 AM
24

Which was about 6 years too late imo. Everyone should be kicked out of home at the earliest opportunity past 18. Quickest way to grow up is to learn how to keep a roof over your head and food on your plate by yourself.

Don't worry, you're certainly not alone. The "kidult" population is a very fast growing segment. It's getting very difficult to move out in some places. In my area you'd be up for $400 a week rent for a basic apartment.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: okonumiyaki on February 06, 2015, 02:07:49 AM
17.  I had finished school, and decided to work for a year or two before going to college.  The job I got was in a different country to my parents, so I had little choice.

Shared small place with four others, which kept the rent down, walking distance to work.  Lived very frugally because used all my spare cash for beer & concerts and saving up to travel...  Work had subsidised canteen, which helped.

My mother cried when she found out I was even buying shoes from the thrift shop.  Only saw them once that year, they flew back for my grandmothers' funeral, where I upset my father as I was wearing dark green.  Couldn't afford to buy anything black, and so had just worn the darkest clothes I had.

Learnt how to cook lentils & rice.

A lot of it was just young pride - my parents would have helped if I asked, but I was determined to not take a penny.  They very generously paid college expenses though.

My wife also left home at 17, that was to go to Canada to learn English & go to college.

I would guess that there will be a high % of "leave home early" on this board.  For what is FIRE but a desire for independence? 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: zinnie on February 06, 2015, 02:18:22 AM
17 when I left for college and never looked back. To be fair, parents paid my living expenses for those next four years. And that was the norm where I grew up.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: kathrynd on February 06, 2015, 02:47:00 AM
17.


When or kids finished high school, they were required to move out (age 18)
They were told that, from the time the were little, so it didn't come as a shock.

A couple of years later we all co- bought a 5=plex apt building.
We all live under the same roof, but in separate units.

We are gone most of the year, travelling.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: deborah on February 06, 2015, 02:59:04 AM
16 - went to Uni. When I ran out of money for Uni after two years (I had had holiday jobs in high school, but the economy was really poor, and there were no holiday jobs to be had that year), I left Uni and worked to earn enough to go back to Uni. Uni was free. My parents wouldn't pay my board because they were too poor. The government would have paid if my parents were actually poor. Most of my friends had their board paid by the government. Because I left Uni to work for a year, my parents decided I wasn't interested in finishing my education, told me I was a failure, and told me not to darken their doorstep again. I finished my Uni course. My brothers didn't. My parents paid their board.

I guess that's a reason why I am frugal - I saved so hard during Uni (and before) to try to have enough to get through. Part time jobs just weren't available then, and jobs were still really women's or men's, with at least a 30% pay difference, so I really had to save to make one year's wage last for three more years.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: kathrynd on February 06, 2015, 03:01:48 AM
16 - went to Uni. When I ran out of money for Uni after two years (I had had holiday jobs in high school, but the economy was really poor, and there were no holiday jobs to be had that year), I left Uni and worked to earn enough to go back to Uni. Uni was free. My parents wouldn't pay my board because they were too poor. The government would have paid if my parents were actually poor. Most of my friends had their board paid by the government. Because I left Uni to work for a year, my parents decided I wasn't interested in finishing my education, told me I was a failure, and told me not to darken their doorstep again. I finished my Uni course. My brothers didn't. My parents paid their board.

I guess that's a reason why I am frugal - I saved so hard during Uni (and before) to try to have enough to get through. Part time jobs just weren't available then, and jobs were still really women's or men's, with at least a 30% pay difference, so I really had to save to make one year's wage last for three more years.

I'm sorry you had terrible parents.

I had great parents, but I just wanted to be self sufficient.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: deborah on February 06, 2015, 03:24:26 AM
No, my parents weren't terrible. Both of them had no opportunity to go to uni as kids. They studied at night school to matriculate, and then went to uni while they were working and bringing up a family. They thought they had done everything for me that they could. I think that was why they paid my brothers' board at Uni. Especially after I had taken them at their word, rather than having a scene, and moved everything I owned out the next day. I had been at home for the holidays, but friends had offered somewhere to stay, and I had a job lined up before I broke it to my parents. The first brother finished high school at the same time, so I think that had an impact on what my parents did for my brothers. I think mum was studying for her PhD. at that time.

I lived in awful places while I was at Uni - $8 a week got a place without hot water, but with all the mod cons - including rats, holes in the floor and the roof...
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: pancakes on February 06, 2015, 03:50:31 AM
I moved out at 21. I was miserable at home because as much as I love my mother we are not good under the same roof. I am sensitive and need lots of time alone, she cannot cope with herself alone so would always seek me out wherever I was and bother me to no end.

That isn't the reason why I moved out but it is the reason that I was happy to. My now husband's parents actually sold their house and went nomadic for 6 month while he was still living there. He was only 21 but his eldest brother was 28 and had recently moved back. I'm pretty sure this was their way of kicking the older brother out and he was just caught up in it.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: SaintM on February 06, 2015, 04:26:57 AM
17, in 1994 when I went to college.

I would be curious when all the other 17 year-olds moved out, as it seems that the current generation feels compelled (by economy or helicopter parents???) to stay home or return after college.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: MsRichLife on February 06, 2015, 04:32:09 AM
17, in 1995. Couldn't wait to leave and would never have even thought to move back.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: libertarian4321 on February 06, 2015, 04:39:29 AM
I guess at age 18, when I went to college.  Sure, I still spent a couple of months at home during the summer for my freshman and sophomore years (Junior year I was doing Army training), but I spent the vast majority of my time away from "home."

Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: looking for FI on February 06, 2015, 04:52:21 AM
16 It was a bad home situation. I started working when I was 15 bought my first car on my own with cash. Worked two jobs through my jr. and sr. years of HS. Parents didn't help pay for college and they made too much money for me to qualify for financial aid. I worked full time while taking college classes online and at night. Only managed to get an associates degree before I was making enough that I didn't see the need to continue my education. I spent alot, more than I was earning in the begining but have since reformed.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: gecko10x on February 06, 2015, 05:11:23 AM
18, when I went to college.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: ShoulderThingThatGoesUp on February 06, 2015, 05:29:43 AM
Started college at 17. My wife and I did live in a separate apartment on my parents' property for a couple of years after that when I was in grad school, though. I mowed their several acres every week in the summer (and decently often outside the summer because it was Houston). Also paid the Internet bill. Probably should have paid more, but it was their idea and the space wasn't otherwise used. Still isn't, though they're expecting my grandmother to move in at some point now that my grandfather is gone.

(When they brought it up I said "no thanks," but my wife made me go back to them.)

Edit to add: Bought a house in a different state from them at 23.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: midweststache on February 06, 2015, 05:47:48 AM
I'm going to say 22. I left at 18 for college (R&B footed by my parents, because I'm very lucky). I graduated a semester early and moved home for five months. Because I initially went into education, I did a few sub-gigs, including two long-term subs where I earned pro-rated salary, while job hunting. The second I signed my contract I signed a lease for a $350 apartment down the street from the school where I would be working. I moved out at soon as I could--not because my parents were awful, but I felt free-loader enough for those five months.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: jwilliams0215 on February 06, 2015, 06:22:07 AM
23. I stayed at home through college and the first 9 months after college (working the entire time). I was able to purchase a home with a large downpayment, adding in roommates, I was able to payoff the home in 7 years, despite "overpaying" in 2007. I have great parent's and it was a nice living arrangement, so I can't say I was sacrificing that much in the process (although I'm sure I would have enjoyed the college years more if I was living around campus).
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: netskyblue on February 06, 2015, 07:26:27 AM
18, when I went to college.  I got married at 20, and graduated early.

I DID stay with my parents for about a 2 week period while I was going through my divorce at 23 - I was moving back to my home state from where I'd lived while married, and I stayed at their house from the few days before my job interview, through the time it took to be offered the job & get a start date set.  Then I took my meager savings and put a deposit down on an apartment near work.  I only had $1000 to my name, and didn't want to waste it on hotels or an apartment if I didn't get the job!
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Mat Mobile on February 06, 2015, 07:42:13 AM
I forget exactly when, but I was 19 or 20.

I moved into a rental with my girlfriend at the time. We rented a 1 bedroom apartment we could afford. It wasn't exactly Mustachian at the time (the term Mustachian didn't even exist) but it did teach me a lot about financial responsibility. The story continues and it's honestly not really important but I would like to make a point.

Even while paying rent, I managed to save 18k$ (there was the 2011 crash and I was still learning) to make a deposit on my first house at age 26. I know some people *cough* brother-in-laws *cough* that lived 10 years and up at their parents and still have more debt then savings. It drives me nuts! All that wasted money. Tsk! Tsk!

Thank you Mom and Dad for making it unbearable to live at home (they were just way too strict and we weren't getting along anymore... now things are good). I learned a lot when I moved out!
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: DecD on February 06, 2015, 07:48:59 AM
I moved out when I went to college at 18, but lived at home during the summers, so that only half-counts.  All of my stuff was finally out of their house when I moved to California for my first real job at age 23.  That's when I feel I really moved out for real.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: benjenn on February 06, 2015, 07:54:29 AM
Graduated high school mid-term and moved out a month later at 17.  Loved and got along with my parents but was ready to be on my own.  Had a full time job before moving out, never had a room mate, paid for everything myself but my mom did help furnish my apartment.  Planned to go to college eventually but never got around to it.  Worked in retail for a few years, got married at 21, moved in to office work and started working when I am still today at 24 (I'm 50 now).  Started there at $20,000 as an assistant and have been a director for the last 15 years and make over $100k.

I think moving out so young and being so independent helped me lead a successful life.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: mtn on February 06, 2015, 08:01:32 AM
I answered 21-25, but that is a little misleading.

At 18, I went to college. Lived in the dorms for 2 years, then in an apartment for 2 years, and returned home for the summers. After college, I worked 3 hours away from "home" and obviously lived on my own. Then 4 weeks ago I moved back in with my parents, turning 25 a 4 days after I got there. However, this is a temporary arrangement as I had taken a new job and won't sign on a lease/buy a house until my finace gets a job up here (she's back 3 hours south) and we know the general area that we'll live in. The longest that this would go is 9 months.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: escolegrove on February 06, 2015, 09:34:27 AM
We moved out for college at 18 but bought our first house at 23. Honestly there is nothing wrong with living at home to build your future. While everyone might laugh now they won't laugh later. People thought we were certifiable but after building up 5 houses by age 27 people no longer thinks we are "nuts" but have respect for what we have done! So do what you need to get to where you want to go and don't worry about other people's opinion.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: wild wendella on February 06, 2015, 09:47:45 AM
I moved out at 17 when I went to a college 2000 miles away from home.  I'd held some jobs while in high school, had some spending money saved, and got part time jobs as soon as I got to college.  I did learn a few hard lessons about taking care of myself financially, but it was probably the best way to learn.  It seems to me that being able to stay at home with your parents *can* provide people with a significant leg-up and some security, and isn't necessarily a bad thing.  It's just important to learn financial self-sufficiency, but that can be acquired in other ways. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Fodder on February 06, 2015, 09:50:14 AM
I have two answers to this question.

I "moved out" at 19, to go to university.  But I was still supported by my parents --> through a combination of scholarships, money I saved from working, generous gift from my grandfather and money my parents had saved, I graduated university with almost no debt.  I wouldn't call myself independent at this stage.

I got a decent job right out of university (paid $44k in 2003, and had benefits and pension, etc.), when I was 22.  So I'd say I became independent at 22 and truly "moved out" then.  I lived with my now-DH, who also made a similar amount of money and we have been independent since.  We bought our first house in 2004.

Do what makes sense.  I was too independent-minded to live at home after university - I wanted to start life with my BF (now-husband).  Had I been single, I might have thought differently and might have wanted to stay home longer to build up more of a nest egg. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 06, 2015, 09:58:33 AM
My parents no longer supported me in any way (financially) when I got married at 22 (nearly 23).  I moved across country at this time.

They gave me great financial support during college, although I didn't live with them. So I moved out at 18, but I cut ties at 22.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Ftao93 on February 06, 2015, 10:00:04 AM
I moved out a couple weeks before my 18th  birthday.  With no job, or real idea what I was doing.  It was stupid, but it worked out very well for me.  Taught me a lot of life lessons.

That and I wouldn't have had a job or future in my small hometown anyway.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: rocksinmyhead on February 06, 2015, 10:09:11 AM
17, in 1994 when I went to college.

I would be curious when all the other 17 year-olds moved out, as it seems that the current generation feels compelled (by economy or helicopter parents???) to stay home or return after college.

17, in 2005 when I went to college. then after college I moved halfway across the country. now I live halfway across the country in a different direction. I love my parents dearly and would love to move back to my hometown, but living in the same house with them is a totally different issue :)

they did pay many of my expenses in college, and my car insurance and cell phone (family plan) while in grad school. completely cut financial ties when I was almost 24.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Ynari on February 06, 2015, 10:37:46 AM
Technically I moved out at 18, when I went to college. But I was still wholly dependent on my parents. I "cut the cord" when I graduated at 22.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: MoneyCat on February 06, 2015, 10:39:29 AM
17 (about three months before my 18th birthday), when I went to college.  My parents made it clear that as soon as I turned 18 and they were no longer legally required to provide me with food, shelter, and clothing, then they were going to completely cut me off and leave me to my own devices.  They also chose not to teach me any life skills like how to handle student loans, credit cards, and bank accounts.  They never checked up on me while I was away at school and I got $5 in the mail once per year with a birthday card.  They also stole my Hope Lifetime Learning tax credit while I paid my own way through college.  The only help I have ever gotten was from the US and state governments.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: johnny847 on February 06, 2015, 10:55:38 AM
Technically moved out at 18 when I went to college. But I answered as 21-25, because that's when I didn't depend on my parents for money (started grad school with a stipend).
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Numbers Man on February 06, 2015, 11:13:04 AM
I moved out at 18 about 2 months before High School graduation. I had a full time job and FU money and didn't feel it was right to pay rent to my parents while I was still in High School. I slept in my car the first night and then lived with a friend and his family after that until graduation and have been paying my own way since that time.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: madgeylou on February 06, 2015, 11:22:40 AM
I moved out at age 17, right after high school graduation.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: richschmidt on February 06, 2015, 12:46:51 PM
17, in 1992, when I left for college. I lived at home during the summer breaks... so maybe that doesn't count? I had an off-campus apartment in fall of 1996 for grad school (age 21), and I got married that December, so I've never lived with my parents after that.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: NotJen on February 06, 2015, 01:18:53 PM
Moved out for good at 19, when I transferred to a college 800 miles from home. Didn't realize it at the time, but it never made sense to move back home after that.

I always had a great desire to be independent and take care of myself.

I paid for school with scholarships, grants, and loans. I paid living expenses with my on-campus job. My mom kept me on her health insurance and my dad covered my car insurance until I graduated, which was obviously a great help.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: clarkfan1979 on February 06, 2015, 01:42:54 PM
I moved 2,000 miles away at 18. I was bored of my home town and home state. I needed to leave and experience something different.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Zikoris on February 06, 2015, 02:47:35 PM
18. I got sick of living in a remote fly-in town of 500, and didn't like my mom's husband. So I moved across the country to the city I live in now, rented an apartment, got a job, and lived the type of life I enjoy instead. I continue to do so 10 years later. No big deal. It's not difficult.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: lakemom on February 06, 2015, 03:04:52 PM
Wait.....so, heading off to school even when parents are footing the bill equals 'moving out?'  To me "moving out" means leaving the nest and supporting oneself (and spouse if applicable).  I left home at 21 when I got married.  I never lived at home again from that point on (not for school breaks, in between jobs or whatever, we were on our own from the time we married) unlike several of my siblings who returned for various reasons over the years.  None have done so in at least 18 years now though.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: MrsPete on February 06, 2015, 03:25:05 PM
My parents showed us all the door immediately after graduation.  The one exception being my brother who'd already signed on to join the military, and it wouldn't have made much sense for him to find a place for a matter of 2-3 months.  But they made sure to charge him rent starting the day after high school graduation.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: HenryDavid on February 06, 2015, 03:30:14 PM
17.
Then first 2 summers of uni back at home saving money for the fall. Parents kicked in a wee bit but didn't have much.
2nd summer didn't save enough--tuition went up, scholarships down--so took the money and went to Europe hitch-hiking.
4 months of that was more education than a year of uni!
Learned a lot about self-sufficiency. Started learning French. Bilingual now.
Came back and got a job and apt. immediately and never looked back.
Finished uni 2 years later. Many frugal skills acquired by then.Got a small student loan but didn't need it, so used it for 2nd trip to Europe. Paid it off a year later. Paid for grad school with scholarships. It's all worked out very well in large part due to living like a student until long I stopped being one. Just seemed like a more fun game that way. Learned early that the worst word for financial independence is "should": you "should" have a newer car, you "should" buy a bigger house . . . . should me no shoulds!
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Psychstache on February 06, 2015, 03:34:16 PM
21.

I moved out in order to start grad school in another city 300 miles away. Lived with parent through all of undergrad.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: MrMoogle on February 06, 2015, 03:39:35 PM
24.

Moved back home after college at 21, stayed a few years to save up money, and left when I found a home to buy. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: caliq on February 06, 2015, 03:48:47 PM
Well, I chose 18 and under, because that's the first time I moved out (at 17, after graduating HS on time -- December birthday). 

I moved back home for six months or so with a deadbeat boyfriend at 18, then we both moved out.  I dumped him and moved back in again for like six months at age 20.  Then at 21 my husband (well, boyfriend at the time) and I lived with my parents for 8 months or so to save up to buy a house.  We moved out into our first house just after I turned 22.

My parents are saints :)  They never charged me rent.  I was working at least part time and/or attending college full time through out all the shenanigans though.   

A lot of the times I was out of the house include living in dorms or off campus apartments, but I was providing a majority of support for myself during those times so I don't really count them as living at home.

Edit: I'm 23 now so this is all really quite recent.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Bracken_Joy on February 06, 2015, 03:51:36 PM
18 to go to college, although 19 if you count the fact that much of my stuff was still at their home when I lived in the dorms my freshman year. I did briefly move back when I was 21 or 22, when my life crashed and burned for a while (bad breakup, unemployed, etc), but a- I was caring for a sick relative while I was there so they needed someone back home and b- that only lasted a few months then I got back on my feet.

Honestly, moving back when I was 21/22 (I forget exactly when) was a great thing. I left Ex with most of our mutual possessions, so it was really a chance to embrace minimalism and pare down what I owned. And question why I owned it. Also a bonus, then when fiance and I first moved in with each other, we had the fun of finding things together to furnish and equip our home.

Edit: since people seem to think it's a generational thing, I'll throw in that I'm 25/almost 26 now. Firmly a millenial.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: coffeehound on February 06, 2015, 03:53:52 PM
One week after high school graduation, I left and went to find a job in the college town.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Unique User on February 06, 2015, 03:57:37 PM
If moving out means no financial support that would be 20.  I left for college at 17, they helped for three years, but I also worked and took out loans.  I paid for senior year myself.  I returned for a couple weeks at 22 after a bad car accident, I couldn't work and it would have been tough to depend on roommates, but I was still paying rent on my own place.   
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: FOBStash on February 06, 2015, 03:58:24 PM
21 - I was cut off financially.

23 - I moved out of our home to move to the US with-  little support -- big deal when the norm in our culture is to live with your parents until you get married then you move out.

Made a big difference in maturity. Friends of ours who were under economic outpatient care still don't have careers or life direction in our 30s.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Murse on February 06, 2015, 04:00:35 PM
22, current student still living at home. I pay for school/take out loans on my own but everything else is provided for me.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: irishbear99 on February 06, 2015, 04:11:50 PM
Left at 17 to attend university, but still lived with the parents my first summer. Second and third summer I only lived with them a total of a couple of weeks because I went back for summer courses and finished a semester early. I paid for my living expenses (to include the apartment I rented with 3 other roommates) in the summer, but parents paid partial tuition and room/board otherwise. Became completely self-sufficient upon graduation and haven't accepted money (or most gifts even) from my parents since then. (All of their "gifts" have heavy conditions I am unwilling to meet. There are no strings on me.)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: NoraLenderbee on February 06, 2015, 04:31:06 PM
Went to college at 17, but my parents supported me and I lived at home during the summers. I also lived with them for a year that I took off from school.
Moved out again at 21, never moved back.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Beric01 on February 06, 2015, 04:41:21 PM
I moved out at 22.

Through age 19, I lived at home, attending community college. 20-21, I transferred as a junior to a state college, which was around 3 hours from my hometown. I graduated at 21 with several job offers back near my home, so I moved back in with my parents for 6 months until I managed to get an apartment. I was on the waiting list for 6 months (Silicon Valley living is crazy)! Been in my current apartment for 2 years now and it's been good, though rent in this area sucks and I admit I have longings for free rent again. :D
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: MBot on February 06, 2015, 05:04:32 PM
18 in 2003. Didn't go back.

Paying for a room and a bus pass on a minimum wage job is easy. Establishing yourself as an adult is hard.

It was much easier to get a minimum wage job in the big city my university was in than to move home and then have to look for a job. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: mm1970 on February 06, 2015, 05:14:35 PM
About 19.  Went to college at 18, went home the first summer and worked 2 jobs to save money.  Back to sophomore year at 19, and never went back except to visit.  Worked on campus during the summers (and did my ROTC cruises) after that.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Ozstache on February 06, 2015, 05:23:58 PM
15. I joined the military. Currently 46.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: someday on February 06, 2015, 05:26:11 PM
27.

Moved back home when I graduated college.  My parents supported and encouraged me to move back home in order to save up for a down payment on a home.  My old job also had me traveling a fair amount so it would've been an even bigger waste to be renting.

Bought my townhouse near the lows of the recent housing dip and moved out.  Here in the LA area, to live in a decent place you're looking at $500k easy.  How I'm supposed to come up with a $100k down payment on a $50k starting salary is beyond me. 

I got a good amount of flak for living at home, but I had a long term girlfriend so it wasn't too big a deal for me.  Living at home was a means to an end, and I achieved that end.  The housing market has rebounded very well in my area and my net worth has jumped significantly.  Had I rented and tried to save for a down at the same time, I would have been priced out of the market by the time I had anything saved.

I'm fortunate my parents were supportive of me living at home.  I am where I am today because of a bit of luck (market timing), a bit of generosity (my parents), a bit of perseverance (living at home in your 20s is not that easy...), and a bit of hard work (saving my money).
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: frugaldrummer on February 06, 2015, 05:32:42 PM
Moved out at 18, I started college at 17, so moved out for my second year at the local college.

I worked during undergrad (30 hours/week as a waitress at a coffee shop) and received Soc Security survivors benefits (my father was deceased.)

Mind you, this was the 70's, a time when wages were higher and cost of living was lower - it was pretty normal to move out at that age.  We also had lower expectations too though - I shared a house with 4 other students, ate a lot of rice and beans, didn't buy fast food or eat out, couldn't afford to buy a calculator until grad school (used my trusty circular slide rule), drove a used Pinto, etc.

At the time, I never considered staying home (even though I might have been able to save up some money by doing so?).  I had two younger siblings and no privacy for my sex life.  But mostly, I just wanted to be independent. 

Now I have one son living with me, working similar type job and hours, but he would never be able to afford to move out on his own on his income.  The minimum wage is a disgrace these days. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Michael792 on February 06, 2015, 05:38:15 PM
I'm going to say 21. I lived at home off and on between 18 and that time, but permanently moved out at 21. I won't be going back now, not because my parents are terrible, but because it's my responsibility to live my own life. Before, I was not in a position to pay for all my responsibilities, so adding my own home was out of the question. When I get out of the Army, life will be much better.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Emilyngh on February 06, 2015, 05:40:36 PM
18.

I moved  to the college dorm and never went back.   The summer after my first year I got an apartment, job, and took more classes.   Even the first xmas break at school I spent only about a week with my parents and traveled around for the rest.   I was completely finished with being treated like a child.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Emilyngh on February 06, 2015, 05:42:08 PM
Wait.....so, heading off to school even when parents are footing the bill equals 'moving out?'  To me "moving out" means leaving the nest and supporting oneself (and spouse if applicable).  I left home at 21 when I got married.  I never lived at home again from that point on (not for school breaks, in between jobs or whatever, we were on our own from the time we married) unlike several of my siblings who returned for various reasons over the years.  None have done so in at least 18 years now though.

Why do you assume that all of these 18 yr olds had parents footing the bill?   I certainly didn't.   
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: irishbear99 on February 06, 2015, 06:00:53 PM
Wait.....so, heading off to school even when parents are footing the bill equals 'moving out?'

Well, the OP's question is when did you move out, not when did your parents stop supporting you.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: tomita on February 06, 2015, 06:05:08 PM
moved out at 23 - left the country with DH, we (DH + DS1+DS2) returned when I was 30 and shared an appartment with my mom & Brother & SIL for 6 months , rented another apartment for 1 year & left the country again
and now ....DS1 left home at age 21
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: kpd905 on February 06, 2015, 06:12:25 PM
18 to college.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: tat96 on February 06, 2015, 06:13:21 PM
Went to basic training at 18 with $100 in my pocket.  Then went straight to Germany, Kosovo, and Iraq.  Got out went to college on the GIBill and got a degree.  Mother never paid a dime for my education (tuition, books, or living expenses). 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Lanthiriel on February 06, 2015, 06:18:54 PM
19. My parents paid my way through undergrad, so I don't count that as moving out. I lived with them for six weeks as I transitioned to a new city for grad school. I went through undergrad really fast and actually chose to no longer receive support from them at 19 because the emotional implications were too much to handle. Best choice I ever made; it's probably the only reason I can have a relationship with my parents now.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: pancakes on February 06, 2015, 07:47:14 PM
I forgot to mention that I moved back home twice. First when our home flooded and we had no where to go while our place was being fixed up, and again before we moved to a different state, they offered so we wouldn't have to sign a new lease and then break it.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: galliver on February 06, 2015, 08:16:41 PM
I left for college at 17, but I went "home" for weekends and holidays and spent a summer there between junior and senior year. June-August after college I worked a summer camp across country and my stuff lived with my parents. In August I moved into my graduate school apartment and the next time I came to visit, I was a guest and I had a different "home". A year later, they moved cross-country.

So, 21. :) I don't think it's fair to say I "moved out" if I came back for several weeks to a month after, without another address, even if I was living separately most of the year.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Exprezchef on February 06, 2015, 08:48:14 PM
Went to basic training at 18 with $100 in my pocket.  Then went straight to Germany, Kosovo, and Iraq.  Got out went to college on the GIBill and got a degree.  Mother never paid a dime for my education (tuition, books, or living expenses).

Similar situation for me. I graduated HS in June on 1986 and was in Navy boot camp in August of 1986. I never moved back home or asked for a dime from my parents, although the offer for both would have always been there if needed. My younger brothers on the other hand left fighting and screaming when they were "graciously" asked to leave a few years after they graduated.
   
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: MsPeacock on February 06, 2015, 09:25:31 PM
17th birthday - basically as early as I could w/o being declared a "runaway." Started working when I was 14 so I could GTFO. Never went back. Paid my way through a B.S., another 2 years of undergrad, an M.S. and a PhD by working full time and going to school. Won a  4 year scholarship for my doctorate.  My mind boggles at being supported through college or living at home until 24 or whatever. (I do plan to pay for my kid's college and they can stay w/ me as long as they want... w/in reason.)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: TN_Steve on February 06, 2015, 10:00:44 PM
I'm answering for my sons, who are likely more relevant than DW and I.  All three were dropped off at the airport for freshman year in their respective colleges.  They each came home for a week or two at christmas, and generally visited for a week or two in the summer, but paid their taxes in their respective college states, and had licenses there.  Thus, although we paid for undergrad, they essentially "moved out" at 18. 

As for as being off the dole, that was four years later, when they graduated from their schools with BS or BA. 

(back in the dark ages, DW and I spent summers at our folks, so we didn't move out until after college)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: alsoknownasDean on February 06, 2015, 11:18:50 PM
Wow, a lot of really early leavers here! Is it normal in the States for people to move interstate for college? Here in Aus it seems most people study in their home state (maybe in another city, especially for regional students).

For me it was 25. A little later than some (although I've heard of people living at home until their thirties), but I was financially ready to do so then. I don't count the six months I was living on student residences at 18-19 as moved out. I went to study twice, worked a traineeship and a number of casual jobs, and spent a little while unemployed in the meantime.

For the last 18 months or so of it I had a fairly lengthy commute (they live in a regional area), and was looking for a share place on/off. Eventually found a place, moved, and cut my commute by two-thirds :)

I still have a good relationship with my parents, but I wouldn't move back there again.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Bookworm on February 07, 2015, 12:55:33 AM
I was 19, and I got married.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: astvilla on February 07, 2015, 06:45:57 AM
Wow, a lot of really early leavers here! Is it normal in the States for people to move interstate for college? Here in Aus it seems most people study in their home state (maybe in another city, especially for regional students).

For me it was 25. A little later than some (although I've heard of people living at home until their thirties), but I was financially ready to do so then. I don't count the six months I was living on student residences at 18-19 as moved out. I went to study twice, worked a traineeship and a number of casual jobs, and spent a little while unemployed in the meantime.

For the last 18 months or so of it I had a fairly lengthy commute (they live in a regional area), and was looking for a share place on/off. Eventually found a place, moved, and cut my commute by two-thirds :)

I still have a good relationship with my parents, but I wouldn't move back there again.

US is a big country, many towns, cities, suburbs so you more or less have to move out. Australia is just cities, technically don't have to for college.

24, still living with parents, plan to move out at 25.

I'm hoping most of the younger movers are already much older than I am, I feel it's a demographic change where people are staying at home for longer. My reason is just purely financial, I want to build a nest egg and it wouldn't have been possible if I had moved out. Actually I moved out from home at 18 and moved back when I was 23. Used last year of school to stay home, save parents and myself money and now staying home to save some more. Now I have a little over 50K total net worth. If I had moved out when I got a job, I'd have 40K or high 30K. I'm torn between staying home more to save more but also wanting to move out because society pressures me and I partly want to. 2 conflicting feelings but I'm going to move out...eventually.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: briandougherty on February 07, 2015, 07:19:43 AM
I left for undergrad... came back for grad school... left for overseas job... came back for summer... moved out forever at 23.

I've never been in the camp that things there is anything wrong with living at home. Since I was a teenager I always had to earn my own spending money so I wasn't a 22 year old asking for cash.  I've noticed with some of the older adults I've met at work that their kids have moved out but they give their kids money for all kinds of things.  Maybe it's bias towards my own experience, but I think it's much better for parents to subsidize housing and food and make kids pay for everything else rather than have them move out and then come crying to you because their cell phone broke.

Edit: In my late 20's now.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: irishbear99 on February 07, 2015, 09:21:38 AM
Wow, a lot of really early leavers here! Is it normal in the States for people to move interstate for college?

I'd say probably about 5 to 10% of my graduating class left the state for college (mostly fancypants ones, which necessitated moving away). The rest either stayed in state for college or joined the military. I don't know if that's a normal sample size across the US. Going in state wasn't an option for me, as I was trying to get out of a bad home situation. I didn't even apply to schools in state. I used college to establish my emotional and financial independence, and when I graduated moved half-way around the world.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: galliver on February 07, 2015, 09:36:59 AM
I left for undergrad... came back for grad school... left for overseas job... came back for summer... moved out forever at 23.

I've never been in the camp that things there is anything wrong with living at home. Since I was a teenager I always had to earn my own spending money so I wasn't a 22 year old asking for cash.  I've noticed with some of the older adults I've met at work that their kids have moved out but they give their kids money for all kinds of things.  Maybe it's bias towards my own experience, but I think it's much better for parents to subsidize housing and food and make kids pay for everything else rather than have them move out and then come crying to you because their cell phone broke.
I totally agree! My mom has said to me, and in conversation with other parents about her philosophy: "You can always come live with us, eat with us, but if you want to live somewhere else, that's on you." (Except college/dorms, they encouraged that.) And I'm sure if they could, they would help in a short term crisis. They just won't support an expensive and unproductive lifestyle indefinitely.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Albert on February 07, 2015, 11:35:15 AM
I left at 23 for a grad school. Fortunately my parents lived within walking distance of my undergrad university so there was no need to live elsewhere.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: BlueHouse on February 07, 2015, 11:47:09 AM
17 when I went to college (1985).  Family paid for 1st semester college and board, and after that it was up to me. 
I went back home one time for Thanksgiving and stayed overnight.  Other than that, I never slept under that roof again. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: crazy jane on February 07, 2015, 11:59:16 AM
18 to attend college. I immediately got a waitressing job and paid for school myself. In 1984 that was very doable. I even sent my parents back some of the money that had been saved for me over the years from birthday and Christmas gifts because they were both unemployed during my freshman year.  Both of my kids are out of the house. They each spent at least one summer living with me in between years of college but were both aware that they would be charged rent if they needed to stay with me. Hooray Empty Nest!!!!
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Albert on February 07, 2015, 12:09:01 PM
It is stereotypically American to move out as soon as possible... My uncle lived with his parents all their lives. Grandmother died in her 90-ties few years ago and he with his wife also both now retired still live in the same place.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: TN_Steve on February 07, 2015, 12:13:04 PM
...

US is a big country, many towns, cities, suburbs so you more or less have to move out. Australia is just cities, technically don't have to for college.

24, still living with parents, plan to move out at 25.

I'm hoping most of the younger movers are already much older than I am, I feel it's a demographic change where people are staying at home for longer. My reason is just purely financial, I want to build a nest egg and it wouldn't have been possible if I had moved out. Actually I moved out from home at 18 and moved back when I was 23. Used last year of school to stay home, save parents and myself money and now staying home to save some more. Now I have a little over 50K total net worth. If I had moved out when I got a job, I'd have 40K or high 30K. I'm torn between staying home more to save more but also wanting to move out because society pressures me and I partly want to. 2 conflicting feelings but I'm going to move out...eventually.

I think you are correct on this, both in this thread and universally.  Even though not true for our own kids, who are your age and slightly younger, all of the studies I've read are in accord with you--the combination of student loan debts and non-thriving economy is a high hurdle for many, causing an increasing percentage of young people to live at home for a longer time.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: seattlecyclone on February 07, 2015, 12:17:55 PM
I'll say 19. I went to college out of state, and the last time I spent more than a couple of weeks at my parents' house was the summer after freshman year.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Annamal on February 07, 2015, 12:29:13 PM
21, my parents paid for uni (which is awesome) and let me stay at home (uni was a walk away). I was kind of immature for my age and I think i might have crashed and burned if I had left earlier.


After that I moved cities to a walkable city with an IT job market and am really grateful for the head-start.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: sugarsnap on February 07, 2015, 12:32:14 PM
19. I lived at home for the first two years of jr. College then left for a 4 year. I did come home for the summer in between jr and sr year as well. I got married at 21 a few weeks after college graduation and then we were on our own. I has jobs and paid for everything besides food and shelter from 16+.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: mango on February 07, 2015, 12:36:18 PM
Wow, a lot of really early leavers here! Is it normal in the States for people to move interstate for college? Here in Aus it seems most people study in their home state (maybe in another city, especially for regional students).

For me it was 25. A little later than some (although I've heard of people living at home until their thirties), but I was financially ready to do so then. I don't count the six months I was living on student residences at 18-19 as moved out. I went to study twice, worked a traineeship and a number of casual jobs, and spent a little while unemployed in the meantime.

For the last 18 months or so of it I had a fairly lengthy commute (they live in a regional area), and was looking for a share place on/off. Eventually found a place, moved, and cut my commute by two-thirds :)

I still have a good relationship with my parents, but I wouldn't move back there again.

US is a big country, many towns, cities, suburbs so you more or less have to move out. Australia is just cities, technically don't have to for college.

24, still living with parents, plan to move out at 25.

I'm hoping most of the younger movers are already much older than I am, I feel it's a demographic change where people are staying at home for longer. My reason is just purely financial, I want to build a nest egg and it wouldn't have been possible if I had moved out. Actually I moved out from home at 18 and moved back when I was 23. Used last year of school to stay home, save parents and myself money and now staying home to save some more. Now I have a little over 50K total net worth. If I had moved out when I got a job, I'd have 40K or high 30K. I'm torn between staying home more to save more but also wanting to move out because society pressures me and I partly want to. 2 conflicting feelings but I'm going to move out...eventually.

Count in another one! I'm 25 and still live with my parents. As soon as I finished paying off my students loans I started contributing a small amount of rent. Win for parents and me since even if I moved out, they still wouldnt rent out the room (2 younger sibilings in paid off house). I live in Northern Virginia, rents and home prices are too damn high. I'm also building a nest egg (a little under 50k worth now) and starting to look into maybe buying a condo for around 150k unless I want to pay $1400+ per month for rent when I know I'm going to live and settle down here.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: bigalsmith101 on February 07, 2015, 01:27:26 PM
My story is similar to a yo-yo. In/out/in/out/in

I left home the first time at 18 (in 2005) for university, stayed for a term, didn't find the value in it so moved home and went to community college for the rest of the year. Then I hopped in my car and took a summer long road trip.

After that summer I moved back in for 3 months while attending community college, changed my mind and  went back to University (60 miles away) where I lived for another year. Then I took a year off college after family disaster (late 2007) and moved in with my parents for 9 months and worked full time. Spent that summer in South America.

Came back from South America and went back to University for 2 years (2008-2010). The day after I graduated I moved to Alaska to work for 6 months, came back home for a few months before getting on my motorcycle and riding it to Argentina for 8 months. (came home Dec. 2011)

After that I spent a year living between my parents house and my girlfriends parents house (now wife/in-laws),  working full time during that period. (2012)

Then in 2013 we went to Australia for a year and it was awesome.

Came back home, and my wife and I now rent a room in my parents house. They are retired, and regularly leave for weeks at at a time. We pay rent relative to the local area and essentially subsidize my parents road tripping fuel bill as they wouldn't rent any part of their home otherwise. My sister and her husband and two children rent the basement apartment and we all live under the same roof when we're all home at the same time (not very often).

I'll be for the next 6 months until my wife is placed in an internship and we move, or she doesn't get the internship and we move. Either way, we're moving (buying a house likely) as we're stashing the cash like hoarders at the moment.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: horsepoor on February 07, 2015, 01:45:23 PM
Left for college at 18, and just lived with the parents one summer when I was 18 or 19, and for a few weeks when I was 21.  I always joke that they moved into a 20' travel trailer specifically to prevent me from moving home after college.  Or maybe it's not a joke, but either way it worked.  I also vowed not to have roommates after I finished my undergraduate degree.  Not a good move financially, but it was needed for my sanity.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Reepekg on February 07, 2015, 01:49:39 PM
17, in 1994 when I went to college.

I would be curious when all the other 17 year-olds moved out, as it seems that the current generation feels compelled (by economy or helicopter parents???) to stay home or return after college.

17 in 2003 to go to college, never went back. Transitioned to no parental money at 21 when undergrad stopped and grad school started.

About half my classmates moved back home after undergrad, but all had their own apartments within 2 years.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Ricky on February 07, 2015, 03:31:27 PM
It would be useful for those that don't display their age to state their current age as this question is heavily generational oriented.

I'm nearly 25 and still at home. I am just now starting to feel the urge to move out, and even that urge now is not tugging so hard that I'm running out and doing it. I definitely could care less what society thinks I should do. I'm in a much better position than I would of been had I moved out. Ok, so I can't know that for sure, but I'll gladly accept this position. Being a millinneal, I can't exactly say I stayed home due to a poor job market or student debt. I graduated with no debt because going to school online was very cheap in comparison to being on campus. And yes, it was an accredited, traditional degree from a 4 year university, they just had a great online program for what I wanted. I actually think, if anything, the job market is abundant with opportunities, even though competition still exists.

I recognize the fact that I'll need to move out in the next 1-2 years though to fully realize my potential.

Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: shelivesthedream on February 07, 2015, 04:00:22 PM
23 (five months ago!)

I lived at university during term time from 18 to 21 but had to go home for the holidays and was largely financially supported by my parents. Had no job lined up when I graduated, but my bacon was saved by being accepted onto a two-year graduate course in my parents' city, so I moved back in for two years before finally leaving at 23.

Emotionally, I could easily have left at 18 (I need a LOT of personal space) but I just knew nothing about the real world, and I think my parents had deliberately sheltered me from a lot. It's very hard to move out when you had no clue how to do things like buy contents insurance. I learnt a lot about cooking and PF but some things were still unfathomable to me. I was also 'not allowed' to work while at school and university because I had to concentrate on my studies a
and 'didn't need' the money because my parents had enough to support me. I would really have valued the sense of independence from having a job, and think that would have been worth tarnishing my perfect academic record slightly for. But the way my mother kicked off when I mentioned perhaps not wanting to go to university, it was NOT going to happen.

Anyway, the point is that I should have moved out sooner but honestly didn't know how. First world problems, I guess.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: NV Teacher on February 07, 2015, 06:10:59 PM
I moved out at 18 to go to school.  To pay for school I worked and got some financial aid.  My parents kicked in a little here and there, but I tried not to ask them for help.  My dad died three years through my program and I never asked for another cent.  My mom still had three kids at home and worked as a school lunch lady and gas station clerk.  I took out student loans to finish school. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Zikoris on February 07, 2015, 06:15:08 PM
Quote
It would be useful for those that don't display their age to state their current age as this question is heavily generational oriented.

Sure, I moved out at 18 and am 28 today.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Bracken_Joy on February 07, 2015, 06:47:52 PM
It would be useful for those that don't display their age to state their current age as this question is heavily generational oriented.

I edited mine earlier to include my current age. Moved out at 18, all my things out of my parent's house at 19. I'm 25, almost 26 now. Moved back in briefly when I was 21 or 22, to care for a relative/to figure out my next step in life.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: irishbear99 on February 07, 2015, 07:02:59 PM
It would be useful for those that don't display their age to state their current age as this question is heavily generational oriented.

Good point. I'm 37.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Genevieve on February 07, 2015, 07:23:29 PM
I went to a state funded boarding school when I was 16 (junior year). I came home for summers after junior year (17) and senior year of high school (18) but worked all summer. I didn't come home for summers after that.

My parents and I split the cost of college about 50/50, so I technically wasn't off their payroll until age 22.

I'm 26 now.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: kathrynd on February 07, 2015, 09:53:58 PM
I moved out at 17 (1977) and rented my first apt.
I was working full time at a factory, making $3.68 hr (gross) which was more than minimum wage.
I cleared $125 a week.=541 month

My rent was $155 month for a semi furnished, junior 1 bed apt.
car payment was $109 month

Didn't have a phone or a tv. Vcr's, computers, cell phones, and internet..I never even heard of yet.

I remember the first time I baked a cake, it cost me $13 for all the supplies, because we didn't have dollar stores, I hadn't discovered thrift stores or garage sales.
Great memories :)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Nudelkopf on February 08, 2015, 12:13:32 AM
17.

Lived in a rural town & I wanted to go to uni. My parents paid my rent for my undergrad (4 years), which they'd told me about quite a few years in advance. I funded everything else (actually, Mum paid for a once-off oncologist visit, that was nice)(I now go public for them). I visited my parents for Christmas, but they never visited me once when I was away at uni. I lived with them rent/costs free for about 2 months when I was 22 to do a teaching prac (I had to do a placement at a rural school).

Apparently my parents are going to come visit me this year - first time in my life they've visited me! :D :)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Cressida on February 08, 2015, 12:50:47 AM
I'm sort of astonished that anyone would say they "moved out" at 18 or what have you when they were actually dependent on their parents for financial support for the next 4 years. I don't think that counts. My parents provided minimal grudging support while I was an undergraduate, so although I didn't live with them except for brief isolated occurrences, I would never say that I had "moved out," largely because I felt that I had to toe their line in order to maintain the tuition assistance. I'm not sure I've experienced greater happiness in my life than when I received my first graduate student loan* and could tell my parents to fuck themselves. For real.

*They were small loans. I lived very frugally as a student. The degree was still a stupid idea, but it cost me probably as little as could be reasonably expected.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: The_Captain on February 08, 2015, 09:46:42 AM
The first time I moved out I was 18 going to University in another city, so I generally learned my "Live in the real world" stuff then. I was at University for about 3 years, and because of the way the school + work terms were never moved home during the summers, so I didn't move home until dropping out at 21. I spent the next couple months living at home paying down some credit card debt I had built up slowly during my years at school when I hadn't quite been able to stretch my loans enough, and then I spent another year and a bit stockpiling money, much of which I lent to my mother who was struggling.

Once I was 22, I met my now fiancee who was from the city I worked in, which finally gave me an opportunity to move to the city (rents were pretty expensive and I didn't have anyone else I knew in the city I could find a place with which was part of what kept me stuck commuting) So around the time she graduated and my mom sold her house (I was 23 by this point) enabling her to pay me back the 5K I lent her I moved into my current apartment, and I've been here for about 2 years now. I only started reading MMM about 2 months before I moved out, so I saved less than I could have, though I suppose had I been less willing to constantly make trips out to my old University I wouldn't have met my fiancee.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: mozar on February 08, 2015, 10:06:29 AM
I was going to say 17
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Bracken_Joy on February 08, 2015, 10:25:59 AM
I'm sort of astonished that anyone would say they "moved out" at 18 or what have you when they were actually dependent on their parents for financial support for the next 4 years. I don't think that counts. My parents provided minimal grudging support while I was an undergraduate, so although I didn't live with them except for brief isolated occurrences, I would never say that I had "moved out," largely because I felt that I had to toe their line in order to maintain the tuition assistance. I'm not sure I've experienced greater happiness in my life than when I received my first graduate student loan* and could tell my parents to fuck themselves. For real.

*They were small loans. I lived very frugally as a student. The degree was still a stupid idea, but it cost me probably as little as could be reasonably expected.

Well,
"move out (or move someone out)
phrasal verb of move

    1.
    leave or cause to leave one's place of residence or work"

The question wasn't about financial assistance, but place of residence. To be fair, I included both scenarios in my reply, but I can certainly see how people would interpret it as "moving out" and not "no longer being claimed as a dependent"

Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Riff on February 08, 2015, 02:38:03 PM
23

Well, technically, I never moved out, actually.  During college I commuted back and forth instead of living on campus, which I couldn't afford anyway.  Paid for most everything by myself.  A couple months after graduating and trying to figure out what the next step was, my mother whom I was living with passed away.  So I was sort of thrust into the real world.  I chose to use what little inheritance there was plus a nice mortgage to buy my brothers out on the house. 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: capital on February 08, 2015, 06:14:20 PM
I'm sort of astonished that anyone would say they "moved out" at 18 or what have you when they were actually dependent on their parents for financial support for the next 4 years. I don't think that counts. My parents provided minimal grudging support while I was an undergraduate, so although I didn't live with them except for brief isolated occurrences, I would never say that I had "moved out," largely because I felt that I had to toe their line in order to maintain the tuition assistance. I'm not sure I've experienced greater happiness in my life than when I received my first graduate student loan* and could tell my parents to fuck themselves. For real.

*They were small loans. I lived very frugally as a student. The degree was still a stupid idea, but it cost me probably as little as could be reasonably expected.
I went to school 500 miles from home and worked campus jobs during the semester, and had internships all three summers, with only my first internship being in my hometown. My parents helped out (significantly!) with tuition, but I paid my living expenses and some tuition, in addition to scholarship money. They also had no unreasonable demands for how I live my life. I was financially dependent, but I certainly felt pretty independent, and learned how to live on my own.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: iwasjustwondering on February 08, 2015, 06:16:27 PM
I moved out right after college.  I lived in dorms/an apartment when I was in college, but I came home over breaks, so that doesn't quite count.  I lived at my parents' house for about two months after college graduation, and then never moved back.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: capital on February 08, 2015, 06:18:28 PM
We also had lower expectations too though - I shared a house with 4 other students, ate a lot of rice and beans, didn't buy fast food or eat out, couldn't afford to buy a calculator until grad school (used my trusty circular slide rule), drove a used Pinto, etc.
That doesn't sound very different from my living conditions in college 5 years ago.

I ate out a bit more (the local restaurant district had a 'half-price' period after 10:30PM or so, presumably planning to make money on drinks I didn't buy? The student paper also printed buy-one-get-one coupons for Qdoba one week, so I stocked up on newspapers and then I could also get ~1000 tasty healthy-ish calories for $3). But I didn't have a car. Obviously electronics are cheaper now, too, but I didn't get a smartphone until 2010 or so either.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: iwasjustwondering on February 08, 2015, 06:20:03 PM
I'm sort of astonished that anyone would say they "moved out" at 18 or what have you when they were actually dependent on their parents for financial support for the next 4 years. I don't think that counts. My parents provided minimal grudging support while I was an undergraduate, so although I didn't live with them except for brief isolated occurrences, I would never say that I had "moved out," largely because I felt that I had to toe their line in order to maintain the tuition assistance. I'm not sure I've experienced greater happiness in my life than when I received my first graduate student loan* and could tell my parents to fuck themselves. For real.

*They were small loans. I lived very frugally as a student. The degree was still a stupid idea, but it cost me probably as little as could be reasonably expected.

I was completely self-sufficient when I left for college, except that I came home for breaks and lived with my parents during them.  My parents are lovely people, but not great with money.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Nudelkopf on February 09, 2015, 03:32:01 AM
I'm sort of astonished that anyone would say they "moved out" at 18 or what have you when they were actually dependent on their parents for financial support for the next 4 years. I don't think that counts. My parents provided minimal grudging support while I was an undergraduate, so although I didn't live with them except for brief isolated occurrences, I would never say that I had "moved out," largely because I felt that I had to toe their line in order to maintain the tuition assistance. I'm not sure I've experienced greater happiness in my life than when I received my first graduate student loan* and could tell my parents to fuck themselves. For real.

*They were small loans. I lived very frugally as a student. The degree was still a stupid idea, but it cost me probably as little as could be reasonably expected.
I count it  as moving out if you don't have a bedroom anymore, and you're not allowed to answer the phone, or the door anymore, because "it's not your house".

Some people go into debt to companies, some people go into debt with their families - you've still moved out of home.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: SuperSaver on February 09, 2015, 05:01:43 AM
23. I accidentally hit the 26-30 range on my Kindle. Maybe a moderator could fix it?

I got a job too far to commute daily without hating life (90 minutes 1 way from my dad's house) so I moved to a new city by myself and my fiance joined me within a couple months. Technically I lived on my own from 18-22 when I went away to college, but I spent all my breaks at home and moved back home for about 14 months to Save money and help take care of my terminal mom.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: Bracken_Joy on February 09, 2015, 06:32:49 AM
I'm sort of astonished that anyone would say they "moved out" at 18 or what have you when they were actually dependent on their parents for financial support for the next 4 years. I don't think that counts. My parents provided minimal grudging support while I was an undergraduate, so although I didn't live with them except for brief isolated occurrences, I would never say that I had "moved out," largely because I felt that I had to toe their line in order to maintain the tuition assistance. I'm not sure I've experienced greater happiness in my life than when I received my first graduate student loan* and could tell my parents to fuck themselves. For real.

*They were small loans. I lived very frugally as a student. The degree was still a stupid idea, but it cost me probably as little as could be reasonably expected.
I count it  as moving out if you don't have a bedroom anymore, and you're not allowed to answer the phone, or the door anymore, because "it's not your house".

Some people go into debt to companies, some people go into debt with their families - you've still moved out of home.

I'm getting married and live in a different state. I still answer the phone and door when I visit my parents =P That's probably dependent on the family.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 09, 2015, 07:02:54 AM

I count it  as moving out if you don't have a bedroom anymore, and you're not allowed to answer the phone, or the door anymore, because "it's not your house".


I'm still allowed to answer the door and phone at my parents house, and I have been married living out of state for over 10 years. 

Of course, I answer the phone and door at my Aunts' houses and my sister's house, and my in-laws house.

I don't have bedrooms at any of them...
(I gave both scenarios, because I moved out before I was financially independent. But the question wasn't about financially separating from parents- it was when you moved out. To me, moving out was leaving the house and taking all my stuff with me. When I visited I had to pack stuff to bring with me, so I was a guest in my parents home, even if they were paying for my apartment.  And my bedroom did get converted into an office, though my sister's bedroom turned into a guest room, so no longer having a bedroom wouldn't have qualified for her.)
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: caliq on February 09, 2015, 07:10:58 AM

I count it  as moving out if you don't have a bedroom anymore, and you're not allowed to answer the phone, or the door anymore, because "it's not your house".


I'm still allowed to answer the door and phone at my parents house, and I have been married living out of state for over 10 years. 

Of course, I answer the phone and door at my Aunts' houses and my sister's house, and my in-laws house.

I don't have bedrooms at any of them...

+1

Well, my bedroom is half office and half guestroom so I guess I kind of still have a bedroom (and the bed is my DH's old bed from before we got together so it's technically even my bed? lol). 

I would be so upset and offended if my parents told me I couldn't answer the door because it wasn't my house :( That seems so mean -- they're the type that says 'you're always welcome' ...
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: jeromedawg on February 09, 2015, 10:56:14 AM
I moved out when I went to college, because college was in Southern California and home was Northern California. But as far as detaching from my parents financially fully, that didn't happen until I got my first real job down here. I was fortunate to have them support me through my college years and partially for the half-year I was doing temp-work before landing something full-time. Looking back on things, I really blew my "college career" by slacking off most of the time. My parents were pretty gracious about everything so I'm thankful for that.
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: AllieVaulter on February 09, 2015, 11:12:54 AM
Either 18, 19, or 22, depending how you define it. 

I went to University at 18, but parents still helped out with finances.  19 was the first summer I didn't live with my parents (I was with my sister), but my mom was quite distraught over this (I'm the youngest, so I'll always be the baby), so I spent the next two summers at my parents house.  Yeah, my mom was a bit clingy, but living at home was cheap and I do like my family. 

After graduation I never moved back in my parents.  In fact, I never moved back to their town.  Almost 10 years later and they're all (parents and siblings) asking when I'm moving "home". 
Title: Re: What age did you move out?
Post by: sleepyguy on February 09, 2015, 11:34:51 AM
21, but it was joint with my GF (still together) at the time.  She is same age as I am.

We were kinda 'foolishly' just wanting to get out on our own and do our own thing... like any young adult.  Our combine income was like 65k and we took on a 250k mortgage!  Yeah... rice potatoes and chicken thighs were the main dishes like 5x a week :)

I'm glad we did though, cause we were 'lucky' to get into the Toronto housing at that time as RE has kinda "nutty" over the past 10yrs in Toronto.