My daughter is getting married in August, on some island of some state down south. I think the man she is marrying is perfect for her, I've met and like his family.
Last year she said they were going to get married at a zoo aquarium, in the southern part of the state, we are in the north, and I was all set to attend. How cool, and perfect for a girl that spent her childhood summers at classes in our local zoo. She and her fiancee are very science oriented
A few months ago, plans had changed to an island by some southern state.
I am not attending, but I think my husband might.
Keep in mind, my brain injury affected my ability to organize. I have 4 basenjis, that played a large part of my daughter's upbringing. There is NO ONE to take care of them at home, so we would have to board them at our vet's. I have no problem with leaving them their, and no problem paying $30/ day/ per dog. I do not give all the vaccines they would be required to have to stay.
Some of these vaccines require an initial vaccine, followed by another a few weeks later to be effective. I also will not give more than one at a time, in fact the effect on an older dog's (15,14,13, 12) body is why I don't give them.
I do not drive, so my husband would have to do the driving to get vaccines, on his day off. I have 2 basenjis who will fight the other 2, so we have to take them separately, the truck can only fit 2 at a time anyways.
I just do not have the brain power required to organize all this, make appointments, keep track of who has what, and what is needed next.
In her case, she and her fiancee are not expecting anyone to come, they are doing this for THEM. I suspect they will do as our youngest son did, a small reception here, where most of the family is.
So, I say don't go if you feel you have good reasons.