Over the holidays it became clear to my siblings and I that we need to strategize supporting our mother financially in the near future. Basic facts: she's 62, twice divorced. She has been a stay at home mom her entire adult life, with kids spread out over 19 years. She has health issues which make full-time work unrealistic, and while she has had jobs over the years, she is most likely to work at something with clerical duties and relatively low pay. My kid sister is 17 and applying to colleges, my middle brother is doing the live-in-a-garage-startup thing, and I'm doing the high-income-high-stress-expensive-city thing on the opposite coast. All of us love what we're doing, are doing great for our own life phases, and aren't able or willing to change.
All this to say: mom can work some over the next few years, but not a lot and not super long. Her current assets and spousal social security aren't enough to retire on. Child support is currently her main source of income, and it ends this summer. She and my sister have been living with mom's boyfriend, but that relationship is also ending. None of us kids can or will take her in for the next 5+ years. Her family history indicates that she will live to her late 90s.
I have two ideas for how to partially support my mother now without undermining my own financial health, and I would appreciate any additional ideas and suggestions you have.
Idea 1: I buy a house in an inexpensive area where Mom can live. I don't mind the tax write-off of mortgage interest and can pay the house off when I want to, so basically it's a crappy savings account for me that she gets to live in. She can work part time until she hits full retirement age at 66 and let her savings grow in the meantime.
Idea 2: Mom's a caregiver, at heart. I buy a property that she can live in and manage as a Bed & Breakfast, inn, or AirBnB of some sort. She has some experience managing an AirBnB property and she really enjoys it. This idea would create a job for her, so she would have an income and a sense of purpose, would give her a place to live, and again would be an asset I would own. I recognize that this would be challenging work and she could not realistically do everything herself, so I'd have to hire additional help, particularly as she gets older.
These are solutions for the next 5-10 years, which is fine. The plan is that 5-10 years from now I'll be financially independent, one of my brother's startups will have succeeded, and my kid sister will be a doctor. If we are all rich then, we can solve for mom's next life phase more easily. If we impoverish ourselves now, it's worse for all of us.
Any other wealth-positive ideas would be appreciated! Thank you!