I am old so destination weddings were not a thing. Ugh! I would think many people couldn’t afford to go. We wouldn’t have been able to at your ages. Hopefully the bride will understand. If not then no big loss. Frankie’s girl is right on.
Me too!
+1 for Frankie's girl.
I thought about a destination wedding back in the mid-90's, because I didn't want a big bash. I figured that way we could just have our parents and our sisters and that's it! I lost that battle.
A few thoughts, in random order:
- a destination wedding is like any wedding where you don't live. I have attended a few weddings that are out of state, for very good friends who were in my own wedding (though I wasn't necessarily in theirs). We had to make the choice of whether the trip was important enough. And luckily for us, they were all before we had kids. So dropping $1000-2000 for a long weekend was fine.
- Being asked to be in a wedding is important also, but you have to judge how close you are to that person.
- Some people like to include vacation as part of attending a wedding - is jamaica somewhere you'd want to go?
- Ultimately, the bride and groom get to choose where they want to get married. I got married where I was living (DC area), which meant every single family member had to travel. Both sides. They lived in different states and some out of the country. It was no hard feelings to those who chose not to come.
Most people who have been married and have had to go through planning, cutting the guest list, etc., have learned to not take anything personally. Invited or not, destination or not, whatever.
I don't miss being the wedding season age. A few of my coworkers have gotten married in the last few years, including my office mate. But I wasn't invited! Because: we are just coworkers yay!