Here's what we do, in a similar situation (though we don't have food allergies, we do cook nearly everything from scratch, including tortillas). Both DH and I work full-time, and we have kids as well.
1. We meal plan. We have a handful of reliable meals that we know everyone likes and that DH & I can both make. Each Saturday, as a family, we decide what to have for dinner each night, based on what's going on that week and who will be making dinner. This gets written down and posted on the fridge and on Sunday we decide who is making what meal, so that we both know what nights we're on deck. We have "dinner categories" that help us - for example, a roast something on Sunday, Indian food / Asian curry with rice on Monday, Tacos/burritos/taco salad on Tuesday, pasta on Wednesday, crock-pot soup with salad and homemade bread on Thursday, pizza/Netflix movies on Friday, Try a New Recipe Saturday (which then can get put into rotation during the week if it's a good one).
2. Sunday prep. DH and I eat salads for lunch. Kids have home-packed lunches for school. Sunday afternoon, we pre-chop veggies, make salad dressing, boil eggs, grill and slice chicken breasts, cook batch of beans, make muffins and egg cups for breakfast, you name it, so that we can quickly put together our meals for the week. I also wash and cut lettuce this day and we stick it in a big Rubbermaid tub in the fridge (we eat a LOT of lettuce -- 5 heads a week or so).
3. We batch-make essentials, like bread and tortillas and chicken broth. You already do this with bread, but you can easily freeze tortillas, and making two dozen doesn't take much longer than making a dozen since the main part of making them is in the dough prep. I've gotta say that my food processor rocks my tortilla world; makes dough lickety-split. You can also pre-make and pre-bake pizza crusts this way. And when we make pizza, I make three or four and we slice and freeze the rest for a quick drop into kids' lunch boxes later in the week. We do the same with cookie dough -- make dough, portion, freeze, then drop into ziploc bags for easy bake-off later on (just put frozen dough balls on cookie sheet & bake for a couple of extra minutes -- works great!)
Now, on to household chores. We have what we call the "magic minimum" in chores -- the bare essentials. And I mean bare. This is what ours looks like (I've printed it out and post it on the fridge, so there's no confusion for anyone):
Daily
Clean litterbox
Feed cats & dog
Dishes (we run the dishwasher at night, empty in the morning and load throughout the day)
Wipe down kitchen counters and dining room table
Sort mail; bills go to bill box, everything else gets dealt with that day and then put in recycling.
Weekly:
All shopping. We do it Saturday, after we've made our meal plan. I go once a week. Saves tons of time, gas and money because it forces me to plan in advance.
Laundry. We do it once a week, on Saturday morning. Kids and DH and I bring out our laundry, sort it, and then run it through.
Vacuum the whole house. This takes me one hour. I usually do it Friday afternoon just before the kids get home from school.
Clean bathrooms (not a deep-clean: just counters, mirrors, toilets, tubs/showers. Takes me 15 minutes per bathroom). Again, this is usually a Friday afternoon task for me.
Twice a month:
Pay bills. I pay them on the 1st and 15th. All bills go to the bill box and I pay them in batches. I've put whatever I can on autopay. Saves SO MUCH TIME!
Monthly:
Give dog heartworm/flea meds.
That's it. We have a clean-enough house, home-made meals 7 days a week, and a housekeeping system that works for us.
Oh, and you can make oatmeal in a Crock-pot! The night before, put one cup steel-cuts oats in a Crock-pot, and add 4 cups liquid (I like almond milk). Set it to low and go to bed. Wake up in the morning to hot oatmeal! Works great! My aunt adds dried apples, brown sugar and cinnamon to hers and then sprinkles with chopped nuts and it's good that way, too. We take the leftovers and pop them into single-serving containers in the fridge; they're easily microwaved for future use.
We also make double or triple batches of pancakes and waffles and freeze extras in single-meal portions. Both reheat very easily in our toaster for quick breakfasts.
Good luck!