So, to help clean things out, can you get rid of some of the duplicates? Would she notice if you didn't tell her and she didn't see them going out?
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I tried with tupperware items, we have a double-sided cabinet just being used for container storage, stupid and at least half probably have BPH. There are 3 or 4 more boxes in the basement, I tried and got caught. So if I make a move to go in the basement (door is right next to her room), she asks me what exactly I am going to do down there? Now, it's not an issue, I can't do stairs just now. She says she wants to be clutter free, the piles of papers all over her room make me want to cry. I tried to help, on her desk top was a huge pile of electric bills going back to '92 for a house she no longer owns. I could not throw these out. This kind of thing makes me nuts and I admit, we do not work well together on her clutter. Several friends and her sister are helping her slowly on her room when they visit. I can't comprehend saying you want to die in the most beautiful bedroom you've ever had but it is ruined by piles of papers and junk. I know it's a mental illness, I can handle it with other people, but she is my mom and I respect her, so if she pitches a fit and cries over those electric bills, is it worth even bringing it up? It's not, as long as her friends can