I put in the papers Thursday night except for one other one to the new company. Friday morning I planned on putting in my 2 weeks so I asked my boss who works remote if we could talk. He asked if it was urgent and I replied it can wait until later. That day he had tons of meetings so we didn't have a chance to talk so I texted him last night saying I wanted to talk to you about putting in my 2 weeks.
This morning, we talked on the phone and had a very candid chat. I essentially told him why I was looking for a job, because I feel underpaid, and what the new job offered and everything. He said well I don't want to lose you. Is it just the money? I came back and said yes and then he was like well what would you stay for because I'm not the haggling type. I said $115. During the discussion I was mentioning to him that my wife said I shouldn't stay and should take the other job and my boss replied before I talk to upper management, talk to your wife and let me know what you want to do. A happy family is more important than anything. That means a lot to me that he said that...
Some back story... All this week, I've been wrestling with deciding what I'd do if they countered, which they haven't yet but we'll see. Based on all the feedback here, from family and friends and logically, I should go! However, emotionally I still want to stay. Based on my actions, that re-affirms how I feel. I didn't go out of my way to push the 2 week notice. After I signed the papers late on Thursday, I was working into the early hours on Friday to complete work. After talking to my boss, who I have an awesome relationship with, I feel at ease with staying if they match the offer or slightly less. One of the reasons I like to follow-up here is that writing helps put things into perspective for me.
Staying is definitely risky. Future promotions and future raises are questionable.? But then again I hope they don't want to see me go. Also, I like the work, the people, my immediate boss, etc. I'm unsure how much more ambitious I'd like to be with my career so am unsure if future promotions are really a big deal. Of course, things change in time. For me, starting elsewhere is risky too. Interviews went really well and they seem to be good guys. I think I'd enjoy working there but would have to find out to confirm. One thing that had me question whether to go work for the other company was leading a team of offshore developers. This was stated in the offer letter. I was like wait a minute they didn't mention offshore guys. I asked the recruiter about this and she said well I don't think they have an off shore team and everyone leaves the office by 6 but even if they do get an off shore team, it's probably like 1 day a week. My experience with off-shore teams has been mostly underwhelming so I don't have a desire to deal with that despite higher comp and perks. This was not mentioned to my boss. I feel like I'm writing this to convince myself to stay if they counter with what I'm looking for.
That's what's going on right now...