Hello MM Community, new member here! I was wondering if you guys could give me some advice on this.
When I first met my fiance, I had maybe $11,000 worth of credit card debt that I had racked up from being stupid and living it up in the city. My fiance is very anti-debt and many of our initial fights were about money though not about debt in particular, more about how much we were spending on dates and whatnot. Anyway, I honestly don't recall if at the time, he asked me if I had credit card debt and if so, whether I lied about it. But around the time that we started dating, I cleaned up fast and paid it all off within 6-9 mos. I wasn't able to start paying back my school loans until that was done and I think my fiance was suspicious over where my money had been going because he would ask me some questions.
I've been honest with him about everything else regarding my finances - how much I make, how much I put towards loans and savings, how much loans is left, etc. Obviously I've never incurred a credit card balance again and he knows that I don't have any credit card debt now. We are in a good place, financially, and my school loans haven't been a problem for him. I've only told two friends about my prior credit card debt and while I'm like 98% sure that this will never be known to him, I worry sometimes that he will find out and it will ruin our relationship/marriage. I'm certain that he would be upset about it, possibly cause some mistrust issues and lead him to control every bit of my spending. I guess at the very least, I still feel guilty that I've "lied" by omission and not mentioned this part of my financial past.
I dunno, what do you think? Is this important enough to warrant being honest with him or should I leave it in the past since it's not a current debt? I'd also be interested in hearing stories about whether your partner knows everything in your financial history. Thanks! :)