Here's my situation as succinctly as possible. I've outgrown my current company and position with no room for growth, etc. My work environment can also be described as sometimes tense, sometimes toxic and not often do I feel appreciated, part of the team, etc. It's not been great for a while. Flipside I have an awesome work life balance and my entire day is within 15 minutes. I go through one stoplight a day, I'm at work in 15 minutes and I have freedom to do and go as I please (meeting at my son's school, need to run to hardware store, etc I can just take off no problems). I'm compensated below market value but I do not contribute anything to my family's health insurance coverage and my daily costs are extremely low. I also get to see my 3 year old as much as I want. But I feel like I definitely need a new job and I'm uneasy that I could be let go any day. I just don't have a comfortable positive work environment or relationship with my boss or President of company.
I was offered a position with a new company and from a career standpoint it's an excellent opportunity. I took home 65k last year, this new job is offering 75k (below my market value and below my counter offer to them of 82,500). BUT my added costs per year would be around 10k + (not including indirect costs such as car maintenance, my time, etc.) - $2,500 in gas (estimated), $1,000 To park, $6,000 in health insurance contributions, $1,500 for phone so in all my salary would be a wash. I'd be fine with a wash but here's the real kicker. I'd be adding over 2 hours a day to my work day in commute time. It's about 45 minutes to an hour each way, then I have to park in a satellite lot and take a 20 minute shuttle ride. That also means my days of going to meeting or plays or therapy sessions with my son are out because I don't have direct access to my car nor are those things a feasible distance away.
The two best parts of my day currently are seeing my son and working out (it's my "cup of coffee" so to speak each day). Both of those would suffer greatly and be a complete upheaval.
So, stay in my current job where I enjoy an awesome work-life balance but a bad "work environment" or take the new job and sacrifice 2 + hours a day resulting in less time with my son. If the new job was 15 iminutes away itd be a no brai er, but its not. Should ride it out and stay at my job and hope to find something closer?
Any help is appreciated.