Advice sought: I have three children. Two are toddlers, and one is a teenager, borne from a previous relationship to my current very happy partnership.
I am currently drafting my will and the basic structure is that I will leave everything to my partner. (If he and I die more or less at the same time I would be leaving my estate in trust to the three children and they will each get their share when they turn 21.) In addition to my usual assets, I have a life insurance policy of about $1 million.
My question is this: should I leave specific gifts of cash to my children? In particular, how about my 13-year old? If she gets to be say 17 years old, or 23 years old, and I at that point in her life kick the bucket, as matters stand without any such cash gift provision, I am relying on my partner to provide a backstop of good advice and a go-to person in times of trouble, as well as her own father, who is quite good in his own way. But that's it.
She would be on her own as far as carving out a livelihood and establishing herself financially in the world.
Is this a good thing? When I was in my 20s, we used to call kids who were expecting cash funds - expectant heirs, essentially - 'trustafarians', noteworthy for sitting around failing to get their acts together and often as not, smoking a great deal of pot in the process.
Or will she rightly bear a grudge against a mother who certainly had the capacity to leave her a little nest egg, or even quite a large one (the life insurance is enough to spread around, including to my partner for the expenses of raising the toddlers) and yet didn't?
Opinions welcome!!