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[reeshau]

is your sister the executor?

I see no issue asking her directly about it now, doubly so since she brought it up before.  (Do you think she did so sincerely?)  But if you have some doubt about it, you could ask the executor or the estate attorney involved to follow up on it.

[bluebelle]

there's a lot of missing information in your post.
- is your sister gainfully employed or otherwise FI?
- is your sister still dealing with grief (we all grieve at different rates and with different levels)

If your sister is the deadbeat that lives in the house because can't afford to live anywhere else or is she just overwhelmed at the thought of getting a mortgage on your father's home?

[Freedom2016]

What are you worried will happen if you ask her for the money?

[MDfive21]

the longer you wait, the more awkward it's going to get.  just ask now and get it over with, regardless of the situation.  work it into a conversation about something else if you feel it's best.

also, the longer you wait, the more likely it is she's frittering it away if she's that kind of person. 

[SunnyDays]

Just be direct, but polite.  "It's been 6 months now and and I would like to receive my share of the estate."  You may have given her the impression that you were in no hurry for the money when she offered to pay you before and you said you could wait.  If she accuses you of just wanting the money, agree with her, as in "Yes, I do want the money, please make arrangements."  Don't get into long discussions, just state your wishes briefly and repeatedly if necessary.  If this sours your relationship with her, so be it.  It will sour if you have to sit around waiting on her, too.

[NV Teacher]

Maybe approach it as it's time to get everything wrapped up and settled so that it will relieve stress for everyone.  My siblings and I decided to wait until this summer to make some decisions after my mother died last month.  It's nice to have some time between the funeral and dealing with her estate but I know I'll feel a bit more at ease once the rest of the things are decided upon and handled.  Good luck.

[brute]

Get it taken care of now before the money ends up invested in a scam and disappears. Ask me how I know about this one.

If there's no risk of that, then just talk to her about it. Hell, even feign some (minor) financial misfortune where the money would make things a lot easier on you. Look at the records. But, is everything settled? Are the lawyers, funeral directors, accountants, and taxes all paid? That can take a year or more to settle unless the executor has a ton of time and experience with the process. Ask for an update, talk with her about it, sympathize with the enormity of the task. Either experience real empathy or fake it, hell I don't care. Whatever gets the job done.

[maizefolk]

My dad passed away over 6 months ago. My sister was left the family house, with the stipulation that she pay me and my other sister an agreed upon amount each within 6 months from my fathers death.

I agree with previous posters, but I think you have the perfect opening right here.

"Hey, so I just realized that in the will it says we're supposed to get these payments taken care of in the first six months. I know we're a little late now, but why don't we get this squared away?" (Bonus points is there are any other things that also have a fixed time limit in the will, which you can propose taking care of at the same time.)

[bluebelle]

How did you agree on what the house was worth?  Did you have an independent appraiser or a real estate agent evaluate the house?

[GizmoTX]

My dad passed away over 6 months ago. My sister was left the family house, with the stipulation that she pay me and my other sister an agreed upon amount each within 6 months from my fathers death.

I agree with previous posters, but I think you have the perfect opening right here.

"Hey, so I just realized that in the will it says we're supposed to get these payments taken care of in the first six months. I know we're a little late now, but why don't we get this squared away?" (Bonus points is there are any other things that also have a fixed time limit in the will, which you can propose taking care of at the same time.)

+1. Perfect opening. The longer you wait/stay silent, the more likely you will never see any decent settlement. If she now wants to make "progress payments", only accept if it's the only way, & hold her to them. Has she paid your other sibling?

[MDfive21]

See OP's other threads on this topic for more background.  My previous advice still stands. Sorry it's been such a rough ride.  It'll be over soon enough.

[SwordGuy]

Get it taken care of now before the money ends up invested in a scam and disappears. Ask me how I know about this one.

If there's no risk of that, then just talk to her about it. Hell, even feign some (minor) financial misfortune where the money would make things a lot easier on you. Look at the records. But, is everything settled? Are the lawyers, funeral directors, accountants, and taxes all paid? That can take a year or more to settle unless the executor has a ton of time and experience with the process. Ask for an update, talk with her about it, sympathize with the enormity of the task. Either experience real empathy or fake it, hell I don't care. Whatever gets the job done.

Yes, I think everything with my dads estate is settled, except for getting the land and house appraised. All the bills are paid as far as I know, but again, she is taking care of all of that. I know if I ask to see the books I will be accused of not trusting her, or just "wanting to get my money". Any time I ask if the land is appraised she gets mad, so I have just dropped it.

You have to decide whether you want the money more than you want her to have a lazy day not doing her job as executor.

That's assuming, of course, that you've given her 6 months to deal with it if she has a day job.