Author Topic: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School  (Read 15144 times)

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #50 on: November 02, 2015, 04:10:48 PM »
Something to consider:

A lot of women build a career first, then have a baby. They take off a few weeks, then go back to work. The baby is in daycare from about 6 weeks on. In my case, my youngest will be about 15 months old before daycare is even considered. I'll also have summers off.

Both on this thread and my journal thread, I feel like I'm being judged for wanting a career after living in the SAHM world.
My babies were in daycare from 13 weeks and 9 weeks (though part time on #2 there).

I'm not judging you for that.  I'm just questioning how difficult it will be to do it with 4 kids.  There's nothing wrong with having kids then building a career.  I know lots of people who did that.  My older sister was married with 2 kids.  Worked some jobs here and there because her deadbeat husband couldn't hold one down for long.  When she was a little over 30, she said "you are getting a job and keeping it, I'm going to school".  Four years later (with her kids about aged 2-3 when she started, 6-7 when she finished), she had her BA and MBA.  She's currently a company VP (and she's now ... 63?  62?  I kind of lose track.)  Still working because she likes it, and she did eventually dump the deadbeat husband.

But you have 2x the number of kids.  Nothing wrong with online courses to start, but I'd certainly wait until most of the kids were in school before I took on more hands-on classes.  I know almost nothing about nursing school (though a friend of mine just finished). I don't know anything about having 4 kids.  But I do know life with 2 kids and 2 full time jobs.  Your husband will have to pick up some slack.  When my spouse was finishing his PhD (and working full time), I did ALL the chores for about 7 months and it SUCKED.

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #51 on: November 04, 2015, 09:10:37 AM »
In October, we paid $2341.53 toward the student loan. $1817 of that went toward principal.

Baby steps.

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #52 on: November 04, 2015, 09:34:56 AM »
Most working women realize pretty early, that you can have it all, just not all at the same time.

Men realize that too. Social pressures are pointed in different directions, but we feel the same family/career conflict.

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #53 on: November 04, 2015, 10:08:15 AM »
Most working women realize pretty early, that you can have it all, just not all at the same time.

Men realize that too. Social pressures are pointed in different directions, but we feel the same family/career conflict.

:-)

I think the new generation of men are just starting to speak out about it. Women are ahead by a couple of decades in talking about gender issues.  the next decade will be interesting to watch.

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #54 on: November 04, 2015, 11:18:20 AM »
In October, we paid $2341.53 toward the student loan. $1817 of that went toward principal.

Baby steps.
  That's an adult step, not a baby step!  Good job!  That's a decent chunk in one month.

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #55 on: November 05, 2015, 09:39:58 PM »
Something to consider:

A lot of women build a career first, then have a baby. They take off a few weeks, then go back to work. The baby is in daycare from about 6 weeks on. In my case, my youngest will be about 15 months old before daycare is even considered. I'll also have summers off.

Both on this thread and my journal thread, I feel like I'm being judged for wanting a career after living in the SAHM world.

Keep in mind, this is a forum filled with people who don't like working!

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Re: Reader Case Study: Student Loan Debt, Pregnancy, and Nursing School
« Reply #56 on: November 17, 2015, 11:53:31 AM »
Updates:

Our house is now worth closer to $170k, according to Zillow (not $150k)
The student loan is down to $32k (not $36k)
 I posted in my journal about a new job offer and a move, which introduces some new challenges, but could really help us in the long run.