Thanks for the input.
Rent vs. Buy: My rent is high because I live close to work and don't have roommates. As expected, NYT calculator has buying as the clear winner. After 3 years buying wins, and I expect to be here longer. I guess the only downside would be a commute, from <10 mins to 20 to 30.
Gym: I'ts an MMA/BJJ gym, for $90 it's about the best deal you can get short of instructing and not paying for it at all (while I'm not quite there yet, this is a real option in a couple of years). Also, unless you plan on buying a new pair of knees from your orthopedic surgeon, one should replace running shoes every 400-600 miles, this costs me about $150 a year for 2-3 pairs.
Groceries: Amazon subscriptions are subscribe and save, it's actually a pretty good deal 15% off items I would be purchasing anyway (TP, dish soap, vitamins etc), but Costco may actually be better even after the $55 annual fee, I will need to check this out. MOMs is the local competitor to whole foods, but their pricing isn't really different...
Phone: While I don't NEED data, not having it would have a fairly noticeable impact on my work (maybe they'd pay for it, but doubtfull) and just suck personally. I still have unlimited ATT data and haven't looked at alteritives. Cricket will save $30/mo for a 5G plan (I really do use that much data), this seams like a no brainer and I'm kicking myself for sticking with ATT for so long. Have people ad experience with poor coverage on some of the low cost providers?
Internet: I may be able to get a little off of it, but Comcast has a total monopoly on the building I live in, its them or old school dial up, they know it and I haven't had success in the past reducing the bill.
Travel/going out: Yes, it's discretionary, I think cutting going out spending in half is a good goal. As for travel, I'm a diver and spending a week or two a year on a Caribbean island doing nothing but diving is worth it to me. I'd love to spend some time in pacific (Indonesia, Philippines, Australia etc), but this gets really pricey so I haven't been. Any other divers around here? If so do you have any good ideas for low cost trips? I've been looking at Blackbeard's Cruises.
Emergency Fund / Taxable: Yes, these are very conservative, I've been thinking of using these for a down payment for a couple of years and been getting more conservative over time. Between half the E-Fund, the bonds in taxable and another 9 months of saving I should have a down payment more than covered by the time my lease comes up for renewal.