Cable, cell, water, PGE, car insurance (!), gas, clothes, disability, homeowner's and life insurance all seem high. So does "miscellaneous." That's neglecting things that look like ingrained lifestyle choices like tuition and the gardener.
You have enormous assets. Strongly consider dropping all insurance except (1) a high-deductible homeowner's plan, (2) a high-deductible liability-only auto plan, (3) umbrella. (Add the last if you don't have it yet.) You're going to leave your wife and kid about $2.5m in assets if you pass or become disabled. That's a big policy that you've already paid for through labor. I have a more expensive home than you in a flood zone and two cars. I spend about as much on all insurance combined as you're spending on your car insurance alone. High deductibles are your friends. EDIT: I just realized that you're probably paying a lot more than I in part because of the rental. There are still some adjustments that could certainly be made.
It looks weird to me to have $1k/yr in "misc" with explicit line-items for gifts, sports, clothes, the gardener, et cetera. I guess that leaves vacations, home repairs, and furnishings? What is "misc"? Add in gas, and I suspect your house is costing you way more than it looks like at first glance. Can you move in 8 years when your kids are out of college?
I ask because my personal plan looks sort of like this: a) get my assets about where yours are at and maybe FIRE (or maybe not), b) allow housing expenses (direct and indirect) to remain high and therefor bleed assets until the kids are out of the house, c) move the hell out of our high COL area, freeing up equity for investment and reducing costs sharply, bringing assets and expenses into balance. Would something like that work for you? Run some simulations to figure out what happens when your home equity is freed up, and you're living in a place that's optimized for your post-retirement needs. The fact that you're paying a gardener strongly suggests you don't really enjoy as much property as you have, and could benefit from shedding some.
If having cable is worth amassing $33,000 (4% SWR) to fund it, then you should. I'd strongly recommend cutting it for three months anyway. If you find you can't live without it, just buy it again. If you find you don't miss it all that much, you can just put $33,000 in your pocket. I'll tell you where to send my cut later.
Cell phone bill is really high. Recommend checking out the superthread. It should be easy to take a big bite out of that. $100/mo for clothes is also simply high.
ETA: what kinds of cars are you driving? Could you swap either out for much higher MPG options?