Mr. P's 94-yr old dad (in fab health - great genes!) who has a little nest egg through investing and wise 'stachian ways all his life, has decided and told a horrified other family member he now wants to "buy a house" for needy/greedy daughter in the South and would give up his borrowed, and rent-free house to live there too. (Not sure if all this was just a trial balloon or not, but he was asking to take furniture since "they'd need a lot" - eek.) FIL knows this chick - and her teen - are a total hot mess in just about every way you could imagine, but has been shoveling her $ and excusing her manic spending/living/schemes for decades (everyone in the family gets bill collector calls asking about her and that's only one reason everyone is estranged), so...
- Two other children and vast extended family are scattered all around the country, but apparently, Dad doesn't want to live any longer where nasty winter weather is an issue. (Can't really blame him there.) He does still drive.
- Mr. P is visiting his dad shortly - only happens every couple of months, although phone calls are very frequent, but what advice can wise-'stashians give Mr. P for some face-to-face talking points on what to try and mitigate this?
Not sure any mind-changing would happen - but there's no clock ticking on anything, so we're puzzled where this is all coming from now, except a recent health scare that probably provoked something. If he's really determined to escape another winter, we'd love Dad to take his $ and settle in a no-maintenance apt or in a vibrant senior community maybe near one or more family folks where he can happily enjoy what's left of his life without daily drama and being a live-in servant - but if he's determined to pursue this, how can Mr. P help protect him? Maybe this is his idea of a "pre-inheritance" for her (?) and Mr. P should butt out? Although we don't need an inheritance when the time comes, there are other children and grandchildren who might. Though, I truly believe the rest of us just prefer him to be comfortable and happy for however long he has left and not be sucked dry by this leech.
Sorry for the length - would love ideas, tips, and suggestions (even if you say MYOB!) from anyone who has experience in dealing with similar situations - thanks!