What are your goals? Do you have any? It's understandable if you don't, most people really don't, they may have some thoughts about what they want, but have you actually written them down? If not, that's what I recommend you do over this weekend.
Find a quiet spot and think and write down some goals for yourself. I recommend a mix of extremely short term goals like get a haircut, and fix ___. Then more intermediate ones like drop 5 pounds by the end of January (just an example), and then write down some longer term goals about finance, relationship, status, ect.
Here are some of mine for examples.
Read at least 52 books in 2016, this is an annual goal and I've done a good job of exceeding it for the past 4 years.
I started Muay Thai and BJJ, I want to be asked if I want to start sparring in Muay Thai by June of 2016.
My house is empty besides me, I would like to have two roommates by June of 2016.
Longer-term, I would like to hit FIRE by the age of 37 (I'm 28).
These are some examples, I'm going to sit down and write down some more goals this weekend.
After writing down goals, make sure you can keep it in a place where you can review it. It's good to keep track of your goals and to measure them over time. Oftentimes if you are earnest, you'll be amazed at the progress you are making, but try not to check it too frequently as it can be discouraging. For myself, last night's Muay Thai class was hard for me, but I did better than I did last week. On Monday's class we finished with a brutual core exercise, but I liked that I was the only one that wasn't complaining or gasping, but just sucked it up and did it. This earned me a smile from our otherwise gruff instructor and noticed that yesterday he was nicer to me.
That's another thing, do not complain. If it hurts, try to find ways to get through it, but do not let your mind tell you what to do. You are your mind's master. It works for you. As a small business owner, I know that employees can take advantage and push you around if you let them, you must harness your resources to work for the overall benefit. I've found that by leading my employees I get way more out of them, and it doesn't involve cracking the whip, for my guys it simply meant showing them that you care about them, that you work harder than them, and that you will fight for them. In turn, they are doing things that for me, willingly and without prompting, that they wouldn't do for my predecessor. For instance, we have a package coming in tomorrow but we are closed, my warehouse manager volunteered to come here to receive it instead of waiting until Monday. Such a simple offer that he knows I would refuse, but it's touching to see that he cares, whereas ordinarily he has been a clock-in clock-out type of person. Your mind is the same way, if you let it run roughshot over you, it will. Don't give in to it. Ever absolutely not want to go to a gym, but once you did and start working out, you love doing it? Your mind can be like that, it can pull and push you aside, but once you make your motivations clear and it knows that there's no way out, it will work with you and become your ally.