If someone on the other hand was saying do it yourself but had no kids or was a stay at home parent or had a stay at home partner who was doing the household work, then I'd probably take that with a grain of salt.
This was pretty narrow-minded of you to discount everyone's perspective but one profile. Yes, I'm a SAHP, but that also means that my house gets dirtier during the day than an empty household. So what's your point? The fact that I don't work outside the home and, after I've dropped my two older kids off at school, instead work inside the home chasing after my toddler and cleaning up all the myriad of messes he makes all day, means that it is easier for me? Come on, now. Probably the main reason that SAHPs don't hire out house cleaners as often is not because it's easier for them to do but because they can't justify the expense on one income and because of the societal bias you display here that they should have the time to do it and that it would be somehow shameful or a sign of their lack of ability if they did. I am very pro-clean your own home, but you display your own biases here about who you think is "worthy" of doing it.
I took that comment as trying to point out perspective. Not that you shouldn't ever listen to anyone else's points, but -
For the most part, if you "aren't the person doing the cleaning", then, well, why would you REALLLYYY listen to the suggestion that you have to do the cleaning?
It's hard to understand everyone else's struggles. I can *say* that I know what it's like for single parents because my husband travels - but it's not the same. I can *say* that I understand what it's like to be a SAHM because I am home with the kids during vacation, but it's not the same. I can *say* that "it's not easier to clean when you are home with your kids because things get dirtier" but it's not the same as holding down a FT job. I could *say* that "because most of the cleaning happens when both the SAHP and WOHP are home, it's the same as having two working parents", but it's really not.
There are many reasons why these differences exist. Yes, if you wait and do *most* of the cleaning when both parents are home (this is not directed to you in particular, this is the "general you"), you are suggesting that there's no reason why 2 working parents cannot do the same. However, this discounts the fact that the SAHP gets a TON of "kid bonding time" that working parents do not. Good, bad, indifferent - it's just a fact of life. So, with the limited time you get with your kids, how much do you want to spend cleaning? It's going to depend on the chores and the ages of the kids.
I have exactly *zero* experience with 2-FT working couples where they do their own housework. Part of that is because of my upper middle class demographic. But even growing up as a kid in a working class neighborhood, it still applies. When my nephew was a baby, my mom watched him and cleaned her house while she was there. When my nieces were little, my brother worked only part time. That doesn't mean it's not do-able, just that it's hard. And I'd be willing to bet age is a factor also. I am on a weight loss board, and I occasionally read about people who work FT, cook all their meals, have 2 kids under 4, and work out an hour a day. But they sleep 4.5 hours a night, and they are 25 years old.