Thanks for the input, yall are making me feel much more normal
I know lots of people that don't get paid overtime that tell me I'm crazy for not working 50/60 week, but mentally I can't seem to bring myself to.
DWs parents all work crazy hours, and I'm pretty sure my parents both put in more than 40.
I know many people here that work way too much overtime, one guy worked 80 hours every single week for 2 years and effectively doubled his salary, i think it went towards paying off his house, but damn, spend some time with your kids man. I don't have any kids, but time together is really important to DW.
Not do detail my own thread, but is "unproductive time" a requirement for a brain based job? I work 40 and am maintaining all As in my full time masters of engineering, but I feel like such a slug since i spend at least a couple hours a day watching YouTube or something similarly mindless with DW instead of being productive.
I could "easily" work 45 hours per week and lifes schedule should be pretty much unchanged, but I feel like as soon as I hit 40 I just hit a wall. DW says I'm overworking myself, I'm still feeling pretty lazy since I know I have so much other stuff I "should" be doing.