Thanks, MDM, those are great resources!
Cheddar Stacker - We do have a higher savings rate, I'm sorry to be so vague but I'm a bit private. Here is a little more info: My husband became a physician last year and our income tripled. We bought a house and made a whole bunch of not-so-mustachian purchases (though not NEARLY as much as our consumer sukka friends/family expected). Then the dust settled a bit and we returned to our previous level of spending plus a little bit of lifestyle creep. I went back through our last 6 months of spending on Mint and found that we spent an average of 40% of our net income each month. We have some automated savings which include 13% in his 401k, 8% in our Roth IRAs, 10% in our kids' 529s, 15% in a savings account (I plan to invest most of this and save some for irregular expenses such as car replacement, large home repairs, etc, so not technically all savings), and 8% in mortgage principle. The last 6% has just been piling up (lucky us). The retirement savings I referred to in my OP was just the first thing I entered into the calculator as a jumping off point and I wanted to make sure I wasn't making some huge error before I started calculating different scenarios.
Basically, I want to get a conversation started so that we build some goals together and avoid major lifestyle creep, ER is only one of those options. I'm a SAHM so it would really be his call if he wants to pursue ER, although I would really like that for him. I don't want to post a case study because we would be absolutely EVISCERATED about some of our spending habits, but again, I have to have "the talk" before I make any changes, so advice about our spending would not be particularly helpful at this point.
I hope this doesn't come off as bragging (look at me! I have a big income!). I'm very grateful for all of the help I've received so far.