I generally respect the wise counsel of you MMM folk so I'm hoping I'll come out of this with an action plan of some sort.
First, let me say that I wish my mother no ill will but emotionally our relationship has always been on the rocks. My dad passed when I was young and the stress of her having to take care of my brother and I made my mom lash out at us throughout our childhood and adolescence. We are adults now, so not as much of that going on, but our relationship will never overcome those years (I've been through years of therapy). Somehow she is still able to affect me with harsh words and just generally not being on my team. I do still turn to her for guidance, and she is my business partner. We established an LLC last year to shield my rental property and to potentially pursue more opportunities together. She is more my 'silent' partner - I do pretty much all the work regarding the property (managing tenants, etc.) until recently when I moved about 3 hrs away. She has been collecting the rent for me since but otherwise I still manage the books, evaluate new deals, etc. We get along fine as business partners - basically my attorney said for liability purposes, it was better to work with a partner.
I am moving back to my hometown because I wasn't happy at my new job - it just didn't fit the lifestyle that I wanted. I have a wonderful relationship with my old boss whom I adore and to be quite honest, treats me like a daughter. I have missed him tremendously. Going home just feels right. I am spontaneous and impulsive - made the decision to move earlier this year in the midst of a failed relationship, hoping that one day the ex BF would come back for me (I know... stupid, stupid, stupid).
I'm learning that I *have* to be more cautious with my decisions, or else I'm never going to move forward and get my stash to where I want it to be. I am extremely independent and strong willed but I give my mother too much power over my emotions still. This is getting to the point where I'm considering dissolving the LLC partnership, selling my property (there's only one), and moving on with my life (ie not turning to her for guidance, whether business or otherwise). She'll still be part of my life but I can't let her continue to spin me in circles with her passive aggressive shitty ways, and though our business relationship has never been on bad footing, I just feel that I need to make a clean break.
Thinking it might be the best idea to dissolve the LLC to enable myself to focus completely on my new job and growing my income (there's no income cap so the more focused I am, the more it'll pay off). Then maybe revisiting rental property 2-3 years down the road (without her). In the mean time I'll work on growing my stash like crazy, exploring many investment options (like perhaps mortgage note investing etc.) but leaving the more hands-on stuff for later when I have built a more solid business and either have more time for it or have more ability to outsource.
If you've read this all the way through, THANK YOU. Thoughts appreciated. And please, no "business with family never works" comments.