So, I'm in a bit of a pickle, perhaps a bit self induced. Long story short, my brother got engaged before I did, and opted for along engagement. I got engaged recently, and we didn't want a super long engagement, so we chose a date that happened to be sooner than my brothers. (For background, My fiance' and I are 28, and got engaged April of 2015. My bother is 26, and got engaged October of 2014.
I live a few hours from my parents, but my brother lives near them, so I don't see them often. When we last went back home to announce our engagement, my brother and his fiance were talking about getting married at her grandma's place, July 30th, 2016. My parents have a large ranch, with lots of picturesque oaks. We have mentioned to Mom and Dad getting married there... and they were on board. We had not mentioned this to my Brother and his fiance.
My Fiance and I debated what date for ours... wanting to having it the summer of 2016. It isn't practical to go much later than Labor day due to weather and school schedules, and it may mean that my fiance's brother can't even come. We also can't do earlier than June 18th, for similar reasons. We opted for June 18th, because it left the most time between weddings, and allowed for some of her family to travel and not run into the school year.
So, We went back home for Memorial day, and found out that my Brother and fiance have started talking about having the wedding at my parent's ranch... unfortunately that came up because we mentioned wanting to do that. She got upset about it. Perhaps reasonably so.
We did look at another venue in the area, and will probably not be having it at my parent's house, but I don't think that will diffuse the tension.
I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to push my wedding out another year, I do want to be considerate of my Brother and his fiance... What should I do here? Any advice?