Hey everyone,
So hereʻs the situation. Iʻm 27 and DH is 36. Heʻs been working on his AA for awhile now and will be finishing up this semester. He wants to go on to get his BA in education and I have the following concerns:
- the cost! Especially since we already both have student loans which I would like to pay off within the next 5 years
- right now his gross income is $38k, and he wonʻt be making much more than that once he gets out of school
- we live in a state that has consistently ranked as one of the worst states to be a teacher in for many reasons, but mainly the low pay
- his job right now has great benefits. He works at a grocery store so we get discounts on groceries. Plus the longer he works, the more vacation time, free additions to health insurance, etc. he gets.
- thereʻs only one state school near where we live and they are very nontraditional student unfriendly. They have a limited class schedule so it would take him a very long time to finish his degree. Him stopping working to go to school is not feasible.
My main question is how do I talk to him about this without coming off as a dream crusher? Iʻve spoken to him before about maybe choosing another major, like computer science or something, that would yield a salary that would be worth the investment. However, he hasnʻt been very receptive to it. But now that heʻs getting his AA the time has come to really have a serious conversation about it. I know I tend to come off as cold when I talk about things like this, and heʻs more emotional, so I just wanted some help on how to frame my concerns when I speak to him.
Thanks in advance for any help!