Love the "No Fear" reference Sparky!!! Oh all those crazy weird brands me and my classmates were obsessed with in the mid-to-early 90's... Co-Ed Naked, those white college sports hats, B.U.M. equipment, Levi's 501 jeans and "button your fly" t-shirts, adidas, Gap special edition denim, Puma, Hypercolor, drug rugs, penny loafers with the laces rolled in, Airwalks, Starter jackets, converse... ok I still love converse.
So if you can't tell by the ease with which I recited all those brands, I was also one of those kids who was obsessed with certain looks and felt so "lame" that I didn't have them all (Also I'm just a really nostalgic person). I basically didn't listen to a thing my parents said from maybe age 11-22. BUT their role modeling did way more than words probably ever could. But great suggestions about actually talking with your daughter not only about why she wants these things/thinks they're cool, but how to help her begin to make the connections between money and her wants/needs.
Fortunately as the 90's progressed it actually became pretty cool for girls to raid their father's closets/thrift stores and wear baggy/faded corduroys with layered t-shirts and flannel shirts. For those brief glory days, I was THE fashion icon among my friends. :)