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« on: March 20, 2014, 05:13:44 PM »
I realize that answers may vary widely due to things like cultural norms, but if people wouldn't mind sharing: how much do you spend on funerals? There is a lot on the threads about Mustachian weddings, but not Mustachian funerals--and it's starting to look like I'm going to need some advice pretty soon. Thanks in advance.

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« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2014, 05:26:52 PM »
Cremation, preferably via the Viking method.

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« Reply #3 on: March 20, 2014, 07:12:45 PM »
I've begged my husband to do it the viking way for me but i don't think he'll follow through :)

My family doesn't do funerals.  We get cremated and there is no ceremony or anything like that that is paid for.  This is my 2nd preference.  One side of my family has a paid for plot that they will just get added to and the for the other side we just spread the ashes at sea.

I don't really comprehend the importance of being buried in the ground or of being buried whole in a coffin.  I know there are religious reasons but I just don't get it.  What do I care what happens to me?  If a bunch of people are sad, they can get together and have a home ceremony.

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« Reply #4 on: March 20, 2014, 07:22:40 PM »
I have instructions to dispose of me as cheaply as possible,  and the answer to any question, "why?"  is:  "Because that is what he would have wanted."

I have also made it clear that after I am dead I won't care what is done to my body, so my survivors can actually do whatever they want, as long as they acknowledge they are doing it for their benefit,  not mine.

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« Reply #5 on: March 20, 2014, 07:25:07 PM »
Thanks for the quick replies. I'm a little embarrassed to say the whole subject is giving me the heebie-jeebies. I've been eating peanut butter/chocolate chip cookie dough all day out of a tub with a spoon. I thought I was way past that kind of thing. Anyway, it looks to me like some kind of cremation or green burial is the way to go…simple and earth-friendly, with a few of the closest friends or family that are left, with a few words by the padre and probably "Hector the Hero" on the bagpipes. Or maybe "Amazing Grace" if that's all the piper knows. (In terms of a Viking funeral--yeah, they're great--but if I had one of those beautiful dragon longships, I would never want it burnt!)

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« Reply #6 on: March 20, 2014, 07:33:58 PM »
We will be cremated after they harvest whatever organs they can use to enhance someone else's life. It is in writing prepared by our attorney. Our kids have a copy.  We are thinking of doing the prepaid thing, but we aren't 60 yet and in good health. I made our urns. If the kids don't want to keep us around they can scatter our ashes. We will have a simple life ceremony somewhere like a park or beach.  Since we continue to live way below our means they will have plenty of money to fly somewhere really cool for the ceremony. I hope they hike Machu Picchu or sail around the Galapagos with the immediate family.

I remember when my parents died. It is easy to spend 10,000 on fancy coffin, big ceremony, calling hours etc. at a time when you are grieving.

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« Reply #7 on: March 20, 2014, 07:56:07 PM »
My family all seem to be big fans of the neptune society.  They prepay.  We get a box of ashes to scatter somewhere we think appropriate.  We all get together and have a weepy party and dump the ashes out. 

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« Reply #8 on: March 20, 2014, 08:00:04 PM »
In my family we have a simple cremation. No ceremony. Just send a notice out to all the friends and relatives that the person has died and didn't want a funeral.

No one has ever complained that they wanted to attend a funeral.

As a matter of closure, it was a good thing for my family that the man from the crematory was delayed in picking up my mom's body from the house. We all (dad, brother and me) sat around for hours waiting for him, with her lying there.  We got used to the idea that she was really dead. I think that helped us all accept it.

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« Reply #9 on: March 20, 2014, 08:23:29 PM »
We will be cremated after they harvest whatever organs they can use to enhance someone else's life. It is in writing prepared by our attorney.

Us, too. We want this as well. We are also on the blood marrow registry. We are totally committed to this. In our wills, drivers licenses and discussions with family.

I'm pretty sure if you don't want to go the cremation route, Costco sells caskets.

My husband's family, for generations dating back to the early to mid-1800s, have been buried in a cemetery in his hometown. We have plots there should we want them. I lived all over the world growing up, so I don't much have a preference. Cremation vs burial - I'm not sure that I care. Whatever is easier for those I leave behind. Besides, at that point it will be a harvested physical body. My soul will be long gone.

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« Reply #10 on: March 20, 2014, 08:24:54 PM »
I realize that answers may vary widely due to things like cultural norms, but if people wouldn't mind sharing: how much do you spend on funerals? There is a lot on the threads about Mustachian weddings, but not Mustachian funerals--and it's starting to look like I'm going to need some advice pretty soon. Thanks in advance.

There is a crematorium half a mile from me. One day I called them to see how much they charge and it was, if I remember correctly a bit under $500 and that included body transport from the hospital morgue. So that's all one needs to spend.

One can always spend more, of course.

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« Reply #11 on: March 20, 2014, 08:46:24 PM »
I've instructed my loved ones to dispose of my remains as cheaply as possible, much as I lived.
Something like this:

http://old.med.ufl.edu/anatbd/usprograms.html#m

Further, I have made clear my threat to come back and haunt, by stealing money from their wallets, anyone who overspends on my parting. 
A little single malt, some shared beer, a few funny stories about good ole dad, some music, laughs, and maybe a potluck dinner.  Sounds like heaven.

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« Reply #12 on: March 20, 2014, 08:49:15 PM »
I have instructions to dispose of me as cheaply as possible,  and the answer to any question, "why?"  is:  "Because that is what he would have wanted."

I have also made it clear that after I am dead I won't care what is done to my body, so my survivors can actually do whatever they want, as long as they acknowledge they are doing it for their benefit,  not mine.

What an excellent summary of my feelings exactly!!  Need to put that in my will that is on my to-do list!

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« Reply #13 on: March 20, 2014, 08:53:33 PM »
I have instructions to dispose of me as cheaply as possible,  and the answer to any question, "why?"  is:  "Because that is what he would have wanted."

I have also made it clear that after I am dead I won't care what is done to my body, so my survivors can actually do whatever they want, as long as they acknowledge they are doing it for their benefit,  not mine.


I agree also, good answer. :D


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« Reply #15 on: March 21, 2014, 06:29:10 AM »
Take anything people can use, then cremation.  I want my ashes to be put back into the earth.  Something like that scene from scene from Big Lebowski seems about right for me

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« Reply #16 on: March 21, 2014, 06:45:20 AM »
I'll be donating my body to science, after everything that is useful is harvested. 

Personally I hope I end up at the body farm where they do experiments for forensics!

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« Reply #17 on: March 21, 2014, 06:55:10 AM »
Organ donation, then cremation, then spread my ashes at the local golf course I've frequented so often (covertly, of course, adn I understand I won't be the first), then a wake (read - celebration party).

I hope that if I go before my peers and family they will be able to lift a glass in toast and say "He was a really good guy".  That would be more than enough.

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« Reply #18 on: March 21, 2014, 06:58:22 AM »
Lizzzi, I have nothing to add, but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you are having to think about these things, best wishes.

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« Reply #19 on: March 21, 2014, 07:03:41 AM »
My husband and I have a pact. The survivor makes all the decisions. We don't have a preference, and we're both frugal.

I suspect for both of us it'll be cremation, scattering, and a weepy, boozy party with lots of bagpipers (we're in a pipe band and our entire social circle is made up of pipers and drummers).

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« Reply #20 on: March 21, 2014, 07:16:26 AM »
I have instructions to dispose of me as cheaply as possible,  and the answer to any question, "why?"  is:  "Because that is what he would have wanted."

I have also made it clear that after I am dead I won't care what is done to my body, so my survivors can actually do whatever they want, as long as they acknowledge they are doing it for their benefit,  not mine.


I agree also, good answer. :D

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Funerals are for the survivors, but I'd prefer as little fuss as possible. No ceremony, and some sort of party. I have been to a lot of funerals. I rarely remember the church service, wake, or eulogy but almost always remember the party/catching up.

My extended family is a mix of atheists and very devout Christians, but we're all very social. And lately the only times I see any of them has been for funerals.

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« Reply #21 on: March 21, 2014, 07:30:36 AM »
Yep, cremation with my ashes scattered someplace important to me, probably the White Mountains of New Hampshire, one of my favorite playgrounds.

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« Reply #22 on: March 21, 2014, 07:44:19 AM »
I want every useful part of my body given to someone who can use it and then I really couldn't care less what happens to what's left. I figure cremation but even then I don't have a preference of what is done with the ashes...except I don't want anyone keeping them, sorry I think that's a tad creapy.
I hate funerals/wakes and don't want one, though, as others have said, they're for the living. I worry that if DH dies before me I'm going to have to deal with his family throwing a fit because I won't want a funeral for him, I'll want to greive privately.
Since we are 28 with no kids and not a lot in the way of assets yet we have nothing in writing besides our DL's marked "Donor"

Me, too, exactly.

I also don't particularly want a funeral because I've never seen one that wasn't religious... and that's just not me.  I guess if it helps someone deal with my death, it's fine, but it would be a total misrepresentation.  I also sort of worry for the wifey (that understands this) having to deal with my family (that also understands this, but is likely to need/want a religious ceremony.)

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« Reply #23 on: March 21, 2014, 07:53:05 AM »
My great grandmother was Quaker(I've heard the aussie ones are a little different from the US ones, but I don't know much about either). When she passed a couple of years ago, we had a simple ceremony where a person from her church said a few nice words, people could stand and share some memories if they felt called to, and we went to a cafe for lunch after. It was lovely, and exactly what I would like mine to be like, as I felt it gave us as the living just what we needed, and we felt we'd celebrated her life.

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« Reply #24 on: March 21, 2014, 08:09:56 AM »
I'm a little embarrassed to say the whole subject is giving me the heebie-jeebies. I've been eating peanut butter/chocolate chip cookie dough all day out of a tub with a spoon. I thought I was way past that kind of thing.

Don't feel embarrassed.  Everyone is going to cope differently, on different timetables, and sometimes you will think you are past one stage, and then you'll drop back into it for some reason or no reason you can see.  I'm sorry you're going through this.


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« Reply #26 on: March 21, 2014, 08:18:29 AM »
I hope every part of me that can be donated, is (although who would want my eyes must be crazy), even to the rare donations - I've told my family to even agree to face, hand/arm, leg donations.  Then I want my ashes scattered over water.  Now that we live on a pond, I'd probably want them scattered over the pond.

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« Reply #27 on: March 21, 2014, 08:31:45 AM »
One thing I'll add is that Costco sells caskets. 

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« Reply #28 on: March 21, 2014, 11:24:04 AM »
Thanks to all for the helpful replies and the support. I am feeling a lot better prepared…and not eating cookie dough today.

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« Reply #29 on: March 21, 2014, 12:42:07 PM »
We'll probably do the wake at home, then start a new family cemetery on our property if I go first/ national cemetery if he does. If he's already there, I can be buried in the same grave, but not first since I'm not a vet.

And yes, Costco casket if I'm the one making arrangements, but he'd probably make me one if I go first.

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« Reply #30 on: March 21, 2014, 03:35:52 PM »
Just wanted to suggest that whatever arrangements you want, do the research and make the arrangements way ahead of time.

The only time I ever was involved in funeral arrangements was going to the funeral parlor to help my sister when her husband died suddenly at age 44.  The overwhelming emotion was pure shock, and all your decision making ability is gone

Much like with weddings, many relatives have their own opinions on how arrangements should be made and you're just in no emotional position to argue.

The funeral director was actually someone my sister knew personally and threw in a bunch of stuff for free (like the $200 urn, b/c the crematorium only gives you a box and we did not have time to go find a nice one quickly).  But it's hard to process what you do or don't need in that situation, and you're being fired with so many options--how many death certificates should we order, do you want funeral cards, a guest book, how many days do you want the obit in the paper and which one, and on and on.



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« Reply #31 on: March 21, 2014, 04:12:51 PM »
I hope every part of me that can be donated, is (although who would want my eyes must be crazy), even to the rare donations - I've told my family to even agree to face, hand/arm, leg donations.  Then I want my ashes scattered over water.  Now that we live on a pond, I'd probably want them scattered over the pond.

They don't use the whole eyeball! Just bits of it like the lenses.

If you are a universal blood type, chances are you can help a lot of people. Heart, lungs, kidneys, liver are the obvious ones. But nowadays surgeons can transplant a functional uterus.

I wonder when the time will come when a brain can be transplanted. The day that happens the concept of self and identity will be turned on its head  (no pun intended).

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« Reply #32 on: March 21, 2014, 04:17:32 PM »
I wonder when the time will come when a brain can be transplanted. The day that happens the concept of self and identity will be turned on its head  (no pun intended).
I'd define that as a full-body transplant.

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« Reply #33 on: March 21, 2014, 10:46:41 PM »
I'm signed up to be an organ donor, but I expect to live so long that none of my parts will be worth harvesting.  What can you salvage off a hundred year old dude that's still good enough to put into a younger person? 

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« Reply #34 on: March 21, 2014, 11:53:30 PM »
My dad made no plans. He had a plot already next to his parents, but that was it. We knew of a few songs he liked, but my sister got talked into quite a lot of frippery that he may or may not have liked. I personally tried to stay out of it since my sister was pretty emotional and just let her pick what she though was nice. With his funeral, it was around $12K, which is insane, but when my FIL passed away about 6 years ago, MIL went kind of nuts and spent something like $18K - she hated FIL but she didn't want to leave him since that would mean she'd have to work and take care of herself, so she stayed in a pretty messed up marriage. When he died she acted like all of the stuff she complained about in the past never happened and blew way more money than rational beings should consider... but I think it was partially out of guilt and partially out of "impressing the friends/family" sort of showing off.



I'm leaning towards the body farm since I think that's kind of cool. Maybe donating to science if they aren't taking bodies for the farm in my area. I've actually heard that there is a waiting list!

There won't be anyone to really care about a funeral and I've always thought they were ridiculous shows and never wanted one anyway. Helps that I'm an atheist and have no issues with death, and if I go first, husband knows he can do whatever he wants, but I'd personally not want a funeral or for him to waste gobs of money on stupid stuff. I told him he should take a nice vacation instead - put the "fun" back in funeral!

I remember telling my dad when I was a teen that I was leaning towards cremation and just toss the ashes wherever when I died (before I knew about body farms) and he was horrified at the idea and started asking where he would go to "visit" me. I told him that most likely that wouldn't even be an issue due to his age (as he'd go first barring an accident), and that if he was at all religious, that the body is just the shell and whatever was "me" isn't going to be hanging out in a cemetery anyway, is it? So it would be like him going to a closet full of clothes I used to wear to visit...I think I freaked him out.

And then watching the series "6 Feet Under" and doing more research (the husband thought about going into mortuary science) I realized how scammy the whole funeral industry can be. I know it's a necessary evil, but damn, they mark up that stuff so much since the family is emotionally vulnerable. Saw it again when my dad died and my sister was picking out more expensive crap because she didn't want anyone thinking that we didn't love our dad... as if the fancy casket and how much money you spend to bury them was a measure of how much you loved someone. It is outrageous the markup they have on caskets and flowers and the like.

I'd advise you to go to vet a funeral home BEFORE it is needed, and lock down what you want when you're not emotionally as fragile as just after a death. It will be hard, but at least that way, you can consider what is really wanted and deal with the money issues then, and since you'd already have plans in place, that will remove much of the burden when the time actually comes. I know some places do a "pre-need" contract, but I'm pretty sure you can go in and discuss pricing and options without signing a contract first.



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« Reply #35 on: March 22, 2014, 07:26:30 AM »
Just grateful I live in a state where using a funeral home is not legally mandated.

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« Reply #36 on: March 23, 2014, 12:45:04 PM »
We'll probably do the wake at home, then start a new family cemetery on our property if I go first/ national cemetery if he does. If he's already there, I can be buried in the same grave, but not first since I'm not a vet.

And yes, Costco casket if I'm the one making arrangements, but he'd probably make me one if I go first.

You may want to get a confirmation on this.  We visited our nearby national cemetery and I can be buried there even if I die before my husband, the veteran.

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« Reply #37 on: March 23, 2014, 12:53:10 PM »
DH is 79, I am 67.  DH had some medical issues resulting in 3 hospital stays during December.  Although we had discussed final arrangement, he kept putting things off.  I decided I did not want to have to deal with any of this when he dies and I didn't want him to have to deal with any of this if I die.  So we had the important conversations with the kids (who were all wonderful) and made the decision to pre-plan and pre-pay.  We decided on cremation and internment at the closest national cemetery.  Right up to the end, he was still not sure he was comfortable with the plans.  I promised him that if he changes his mind, we will change the plans.  I like saving money but his peace of mind is more important than money.  My plans will not change.  I will be very surprised if he ever discusses it again.

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« Reply #38 on: March 23, 2014, 01:17:39 PM »
Donate body to science - to local university. They paid for my grandfathers cremation after use. It did take a year to finish the process. I don't know if that is usual. He was in the medical profession, and he arranged the donation before death.

That's what I want, but it freaks my wife out. 

I think the students dissect over a school year usually.

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« Reply #39 on: March 23, 2014, 01:23:00 PM »
Donate body to science - to local university. They paid for my grandfathers cremation after use. It did take a year to finish the process. I don't know if that is usual. He was in the medical profession, and he arranged the donation before death.

That's what I want, but it freaks my wife out. 

I think the students dissect over a school year usually.

She might be interested to read the students' perspective on the donors. I really liked this Washington Post article. (A few of my family members have made anatomical gifts to medical schools.)

http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/medical-students-learned-on-the-bodies-and-now-honor-the-donors/2012/05/27/gJQAScxJvU_story.html

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« Reply #40 on: March 23, 2014, 01:29:59 PM »
Donate body to science - to local university. They paid for my grandfathers cremation after use. It did take a year to finish the process. I don't know if that is usual. He was in the medical profession, and he arranged the donation before death.

That's what I want, but it freaks my wife out. 

I think the students dissect over a school year usually.

I am not a squeamish person.  I am not a religious person (so I don't care about staying "intact".)  But for some reason, it ooks me out too.  I want all my reusable parts donated, but... something about floating in a vat of formaldehyde and having someone mail my penis to his friends as a joke* just leaves me a little uncomfortable.

Yeah: I should get over it.  I probably won't.

*First off, that's hyperbole.  Don't take me at face value.  Secondly, don't tell me it doesn't happen, since I have a host of stories from med school friends/family about mailing body parts.

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« Reply #41 on: March 23, 2014, 03:20:04 PM »
We'll probably do the wake at home, then start a new family cemetery on our property if I go first/ national cemetery if he does. If he's already there, I can be buried in the same grave, but not first since I'm not a vet.

And yes, Costco casket if I'm the one making arrangements, but he'd probably make me one if I go first.

You may want to get a confirmation on this.  We visited our nearby national cemetery and I can be buried there even if I die before my husband, the veteran.


Huh. Yes, I will double check. Thanks.

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« Reply #42 on: March 23, 2014, 04:48:43 PM »
I'm signed up to be an organ donor, but I expect to live so long that none of my parts will be worth harvesting.  What can you salvage off a hundred year old dude that's still good enough to put into a younger person?

You'd be surprised. Corneas, kidneys (if they're still functioning).

The issue with dying at 100 years isn't so much what's still useful as the mode of death. Most organs can only be harvested in a specific set of circumstances (traumatic brain death, in hospital ICU on ventilatory support). The chances of that happening at 100 years old are so minimal as to be effectively zero.

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« Reply #43 on: March 23, 2014, 04:49:58 PM »
PS As the wife of someone waiting for a kidney donor, I'm loving the "donate" responses here. Thank you all.

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« Reply #44 on: March 23, 2014, 04:55:02 PM »
Donate body to science - to local university. They paid for my grandfathers cremation after use. It did take a year to finish the process. I don't know if that is usual. He was in the medical profession, and he arranged the donation before death.

That's what I want, but it freaks my wife out. 

I think the students dissect over a school year usually.

I am not a squeamish person.  I am not a religious person (so I don't care about staying "intact".)  But for some reason, it ooks me out too.  I want all my reusable parts donated, but... something about floating in a vat of formaldehyde and having someone mail my penis to his friends as a joke* just leaves me a little uncomfortable.

Yeah: I should get over it.  I probably won't.

*First off, that's hyperbole.  Don't take me at face value.  Secondly, don't tell me it doesn't happen, since I have a host of stories from med school friends/family about mailing body parts.

So are the morticians and their assistants less likely to act inappropriately?

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« Reply #45 on: March 23, 2014, 04:59:37 PM »
Donate body to science - to local university. They paid for my grandfathers cremation after use. It did take a year to finish the process. I don't know if that is usual. He was in the medical profession, and he arranged the donation before death.

That's what I want, but it freaks my wife out. 

I think the students dissect over a school year usually.

I am not a squeamish person.  I am not a religious person (so I don't care about staying "intact".)  But for some reason, it ooks me out too.  I want all my reusable parts donated, but... something about floating in a vat of formaldehyde and having someone mail my penis to his friends as a joke* just leaves me a little uncomfortable.

Yeah: I should get over it.  I probably won't.

*First off, that's hyperbole.  Don't take me at face value.  Secondly, don't tell me it doesn't happen, since I have a host of stories from med school friends/family about mailing body parts.

So are the morticians and their assistants less likely to act inappropriately?

LOL.

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« Reply #46 on: March 23, 2014, 05:04:16 PM »
PS As the wife of someone waiting for a kidney donor, I'm loving the "donate" responses here. Thank you all.

Donation has always been hugely important to me... and I can't really even explain the why (other than it seems like a waste).  I don't have any friends/relatives that have been affected by it. 

Maybe deep down I'd like it to be a small bright spot at the end.  "Well at least the old bastard gave his corneas and kidneys away."

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« Reply #47 on: March 23, 2014, 05:05:39 PM »
No point burning or burying something that someone else needs to live.

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« Reply #48 on: March 23, 2014, 05:13:35 PM »
When my parents passed away, all of us 'kids' worked together to build caskets out of simple pine boards.  Although we had to sign all kinds of waivers to make the funeral parlor folks comfortable (they didn,t want to be held liable if mom broke through the bottom of the coffin.), it was a great process both times.  Very cathartic.  A great chance for all of us to come together and occupy our hands.  I would do it over again.  We had a family friend turn to his kids and say, "you are all on notice that I wnt you to build my coffin when I die!".

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« Reply #49 on: March 24, 2014, 12:23:36 PM »
I hope every part of me that can be donated, is (although who would want my eyes must be crazy), even to the rare donations - I've told my family to even agree to face, hand/arm, leg donations.  Then I want my ashes scattered over water.  Now that we live on a pond, I'd probably want them scattered over the pond.

They don't use the whole eyeball! Just bits of it like the lenses.

If you are a universal blood type, chances are you can help a lot of people. Heart, lungs, kidneys, liver are the obvious ones. But nowadays surgeons can transplant a functional uterus.

I wonder when the time will come when a brain can be transplanted. The day that happens the concept of self and identity will be turned on its head  (no pun intended).

O+  I'm a blood donor too.
Re eyes, that was more of a slam to how terrible they are (pretty bad vision, my last optometrist told me I wasn't even a good candidate for laser surgery).