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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #50 on: March 16, 2022, 02:57:21 AM »
Good morning all you funky kids. Here’s an UPDATE: I had my first session of video therapy on Betterhelp. The provider lists her credentials as PhD and Licensed Professional Counselor.

More importantly she seems like a good fit. I told her I prefer not to experience emotions, and she gave me the kind of Look that I respond to with a shivering desire to prostrate myself before my better.  I can tell she’s going to terrify me into a better mental framing of myself. So that’s nice.
The best worst feeling ever. Sounds good.

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The podcast I'm listening to mentioned something about menopause-related ADHD (have to listen again to make sure what the actual point is) and that is a possibility for me. It's all quite fascinating really.

I would love to know what the actual point is...because I am feeling this now.
There's a transcript at https://www.alieward.com/ologies-extras (scroll down past the bleeped episodes). I can't manage to copy the relevant bit from the pdf on my phone but it's the end of page 19 and start of page 20 (about 1 hour 10 minutes into the podcast if you're listening). There's not actually much other than the fact that female hormones do seem to have a significant effect and more research is needed.

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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #51 on: March 16, 2022, 12:42:50 PM »
Good morning all you funky kids. Here’s an UPDATE: I had my first session of video therapy on Betterhelp. The provider lists her credentials as PhD and Licensed Professional Counselor.

More importantly she seems like a good fit. I told her I prefer not to experience emotions, and she gave me the kind of Look that I respond to with a shivering desire to prostrate myself before my better.  I can tell she’s going to terrify me into a better mental framing of myself. So that’s nice.

Heck yes, so exciting that this next one seems like a good fit. May The Look provide much growth and progress.

@Dicey I think Sam just found our sub-tribe name: The Funk
We'd even have our own theme song. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R4cJpoqX7KU


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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #52 on: March 16, 2022, 01:19:30 PM »
Ok I've been inspired, I signed up on betterhelp too. This was a really good thread. I have Kaiser and their in network therapy only has availability once every couple of months. I am so frustrated at paying out of pocket to actually get care, but hopefully it will be worth it.

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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #53 on: March 17, 2022, 02:29:08 PM »
I am late to the party and you've found a therapist who might be a good fit.

But for me, what helped was trying different therapists and trying different modalities. CBT does not work for me. I'm an excellent thinker and I can play the game and nothing changes. I think CBT is often like this for smart people? IFS and EMDR helped. Just talking sometimes helps. Meditation and Reiki can help. DBT elements helped too, but I don't know if I would have ever handled a whole session of DBT.

Finding a smart, freshly trained or still teaching therapist is a good fit for me because they are applying all their best tools to me.

Sometimes I have spend a thousand I didn't have on therapy that didn't work, but at least I tried.

Last year I think I spent a lot of thousands on therapy that did work. And now I have a therapist I can contact for touch ups and check ins.

I am reading a book about feelings, and the author Tara Brach makes a terrible awful joke. The client returns and says "I thought this was going to make me feel better, I feel awful." The therapist responds "You are feeling better. You're better at feeling sad and mad and angry!". Apparently feeling these things is a good skill.

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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #54 on: March 17, 2022, 10:45:41 PM »
Ok I've been inspired, I signed up on betterhelp too. This was a really good thread. I have Kaiser and their in network therapy only has availability once every couple of months. I am so frustrated at paying out of pocket to actually get care, but hopefully it will be worth it.

I encountered the same problem with Kaiser. I eventually was able to go through LifeStance, which I believe is considered in-network with Kaiser in many states. Might be another option for you.

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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #55 on: March 18, 2022, 07:06:25 AM »

One theory I’ve seen kicked around is that in ADD patients stimulants have counterintuitive results; they disinhibit us from Impossible Things & frequently relax us or put us to sleep. I’d be curious how many here experience the same.

This is certainly true for my daughter who has classic ADHD and took medication from grade 6 to 11.  When she started drinking coffee, she was able to stop taking the meds. 

The only times in my life I thoroughly emptied and cleaned my kitchen cabinets was when I was studying for actuarial exams.  In school, I almost never finished a paper until the night before it was due.  I am definitely a pro (castinator).

I've been meaning to find a new therapist since the 1st of the year.  I'll have to work on that.  Later.  ;-)

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Re: More torture therapy? Psychologist? Next Step!?
« Reply #56 on: March 19, 2022, 04:53:57 PM »
It's genetic! Often kids getting diagnosed leads to the parents seeing their own idiosyncrasies & struggles through new eyes.