Yeah, you're right, I need to talk to him when I'm not pissed about other things and ill to boot.
His family is a sore point, he is a normal, employed, drug free, no criminal record, etc. person, but the rest of the family is a disaster. The constant begging and having to lie/not disclose our income, plans, etc. is very draining. I'm not used to people behaving like this.