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Spouse (soon to be engaged by eoy) - 2018 $65K salary (2017 was $62K, 2016 salary $60K). Her income is steady, with the same employer for 7 years now. Frugal since Day 1 and very much so a live below means type of lifestyle, both of us really fit that profile. She is deferring the MAX for her 401K this year, 2017 tried to add a lot at the end of year, I believe ended up contributing around $13K, and in 2016 did the minimum 6% to get the employer match of 3%. Solid credit score, 780s.
My income situation is a bit more complex, with same employer 6 years. My "salary" is $65K as well, but there is a commission component to my job. The last 3 years, after commissions, I have made nearly the same exact amount around $85K, but the commissions each year have come as follows - 2018 - EOY bonus of $20K, 2017 - 3 Bonuses in June, July, & November, and 2016 - 2 Bonuses in March & December... I'm deferring the max to my 401K this year, 2017 was the max, and around $12K in 2016. Solid credit score, 800. If you just look at my W2s, each year looks identical, but above is the full scoop.
How will lenders view these incomes during the pre-approval process? For example, for my spouse, will they say she makes $65K and subtract the 401K contribution to show her "lendable income" as $46.5? Will they dig into my income beyond the W2s and lend based on my W2 income ($85K) OR my $65K - 401K Contributions = $46.5? These things would greatly impact the figures.
We have no debt and will be looking to purchase a home in the next 12-24 months, so trying to get our education well in advance.