This is all helpful, thanks. I think I will, stick to easier meals on kids nights. I started having them plan the menu and do the shopping anyway. For my alone nights it might help yo make nice meals for myself, the things they wouldn't appreciate. And I really do need to find a social group. Maybe start with some special meals for me, then work on that.
I had somemcupcakes from work some invited the neighbors out for a glass of wine while the kids all played and ate cupcakes. And then I had to arrange all the food for a day trip tomorrow with a friend and our four kids. As tiring as that is in the evening, I get such joy out of preparing 8 sandwiches, 2 salads, snacks, sides, and dinner for all of us.