My husband and I spent the first 10 years of our marriage making good money, saving lots, and generally making good financial decisions (we are both fairly conservative fiscally) - but talking about money almost always led to a fight.
He wanted to put every dollar of savings into retirement. I wanted to put most in retirement and some in short term savings accounts for EF and things we knew we'd want to purchase or do. Oh the fights! We didn't listen to each other well, and each of us felt like we were right...and just thinking about it practically gives me anxiety.
What helped for us was taking Dave Ramsey's Total Money Make Over class. We learned a lot about finances, about saving for emergencies, the near future and the far future. It also took a lot of the emotion out of our discussions, we learned to ask questions, listen while the other talked, and look not only at our viewpoint, but why the other partner felt they way they did.
A lot of people think Dave Ramsey is only for people in debt, but I think it is good for anyone who wants to learn about finances, saving, investing, and how to talk about money with a partner. Yeah, folks on this site know a lot, but sometimes that makes them less than patient with people who are not on board with saving a large part of their income. We are now on what Dave Ramsey calls Baby Step Seven (Save and Invest and Live Like No One Else). We are building wealth. I feel like we now have more in common with the people here who are planning early retirement than we do with those who listen to Ramsey to get out of crippling debt...but I will always be grateful that the TMMO class taught us how to communicate about money and stopped all the fighting.