I'm interested to see how this project will shift my mind frame from "save as much as possible" to accessing the amazing opportunity we have to use money to do something that has to be done and add something that we really want which will enrich our lives and the use of our outdoors. Life is short.
IMO this is a huge mental shift, and good job working on it in a logical way vs. just saying "woo-hoo, we're millionaires, let's buy everything we want!"
It is absolutely true that you can solve some problems by throwing money at them; the key is to figure out when that makes sense and when it doesn't, and to focus your efforts on specific, discrete items that actually do make your life better vs. just defaulting to the easy solution.
I'm going to give you one silly example, just because it amuses me. Background: my mom is cheap -- I mean, not frugal, absolutely miserly. She's the Millionaire Next Door type, multi-millionaire who now runs her own consulting firm and still keeps her non-work-related expenses to $30K/yr. She
cannot spend money -- gives her anxiety. Won't take a cab or pay for parking, ever. She's now in her 70s, and while she refuses to quit, she is getting more anxiety about travel logistics and things going wrong, particularly when she has to do things like deal with phone trees and all that.
A week or so ago she was flying to visit my DD (on DD's birthday, so arrival date/time mattered to my mom very much). Through a long series of airline-related fubars, she ended up in a different city than originally planned having missed the connecting flight by like 2 minutes. She is high-status on this airline because of all of her travel, so she went to the gate agent, who she describes as nasty and who just pointed her to the big long line and told her to go wait her turn to rebook. She said (to herself) fuck that and went to the airline's lounge and asked to buy a day pass. They were overbooked and said they weren't selling day passes any more. So she said, fine, give me a year's membership. She bought it, and the people at the desk in the lounge then rebooked her in 5 minutes. And she got to sit in comfortable quiet for the hours until her flight.
I was extremely proud of her for loosening her ample purse strings on a specific choice that was not necessary but nevertheless improved her life in some small way.
Of course, then she tells me she bought the membership with miles instead of $$. Because of course she did. ;-)