Warning, amateur psychoanalysis ahead...
This statement sums up your quandry:
"yeah, stop giving me money and some minor validation so I can go home and watch tv".
Money, validation, tv. Let's take each in turn:
Money - You don't say how much money, but you did say "above and below" and "loyalty to my staff"; from these, I will assume you aren't a worker bee. Because of that, I'll assume you are making good scratch. You also indicate that a) you don't need the money but b) that you would miss it. Perhaps you need to take a few days and digest "Your Money or Your Life" which has been previously been reviewed by MMM. That book will help give you some clarity around priorities related to money.
Validation - This (to me) is you saying, "Being paid improves my self-image. If I stop working, I will no longer be paid. Therefore, if I stop working, my value as a human being will be somewhat diminished." In addition, having people depend on you also improves your self-image. Many people have these feelings. Sometimes they are caused by your upbringing, sometimes they flow from a strong personal work ethic or a variety of other reasons. You need to separate in your mind what you do for money and your worth as a person. You can always quit and see what happens. If it's too much, you can go find a better company or a different career.
TV - This is a false dichotomy. You have an infinite variety of choices, not just two: work or watch TV. I also notice you mention "stay home and watch TV" not once but twice. You didn't just say "stay home" or "go follow my passion" or "sit on my butt". You are asking yourself "If I didn't work, what the heck would I do?" Well, what would you do? Would you really just watch TV? If the answer is "yes", then I would advise you to keep working and to change jobs. If the answer is "I'm not sure" or "I have a real desire to _______." then I would advise you to talk to your husband and make a plan to make the world a better place. Take some time and really think about what you would really do if your time belonged to you.
Finally, I will end with a couple of other points. If your husband loves you and you don't need the money, he doesn't want you to be unhappy at work. Work is important to you and when you're not happy in your work, he's not happy either, even if he wears a brave face.
Also, you need to consider your career moves with the whole picture in mind. You say your husband is a good provider, but are you debt-free? Is his view of your family and financial situation compatible with your possible "retirement?" You really need to be on the same page and lay out what the money picture will look like in five and twenty years if you quit.
I hope this helps. I won't even charge you a nickle for the advice (it's likely not worth that much anyway).
Best of luck to you, keep us posted on your decisions!!
The Accidental Miser