Like the OP, one of the main reasons I haven't sought out medication is the whole process of finding a psychiatrist and a therapist. I haven't had stellar experiences in the past, and in my opinion -- and yes, it's just my opinion -- a bad therapist or bad fit is worse than no therapist at all. It's also just so fraught. The one who prescribes your medication is not usually the one with whom you spend the most time, i.e. in many respects, psychiatrists have become more subscribers than the actual people who help you manage your depression or anxiety. I've actually had a psychiatrist friend say this to me with dismay.
And then there's the chance of getting some sort of diagnosis with which I would disagree. For instance, I have a friend who was diagnosed as bi-polar. She fought it for a long time. I'm not going to go into it, but it has limited her employment opportunities. I think she's come to finally admit that the diagnosis is likely correct, given her family history, but that doesn't change the fact that now she is labeled.
Hopefully Obamacare has mitigated some of the concerns about getting something on your "chart" that would up your rates on the open market. Is that true at least?
Back to anxiety medications, I was given Ativan (lorazepam) in the hospital once because I was freaking out about the amount of pain I was in. It seemed to work, but it seems like something they just give for episodes and not for chronic anxiety.