@MountainTown I mean if you were seriously serious you wouldn’t have waited to start looking for a home until three months before your twins are due. I’m due with one baby in three weeks and while “nesting” is somewhat of a real hormonal drive, it’s not actually experienced until further along than 6-7 months. Panic about being ready (esp with twins) is somewhat rational at any point!
With twins, only like 40% of moms go past 35 weeks or something. You don’t have time to find a house, close and move within the next 8 weeks, especially right now when things are shut down.
Now, as someone looking at a completely different experience of the final weeks of pregnancy and first weeks with baby, I do understand her feeling completely out of sorts right now. We were just told that we shouldn’t even have our parents come visit until at least 3 days after we get home from the hospital. My mom is now watching my niece full time at her home two hours away because my sister who works in the same town as me is a healthcare worker. So the plan for my mom to come help us at the beginning is out.
Having baby showers cancelled, not having a nursery set up at all, and everything going on right now is causing anxiety. It’s mostly not about “nesting” but the fact that you all could have two babies in the next few weeks and all your plans are out the window. All the diapers and wipes and registry items she thought she’d be getting are no longer coming. You did not plan for the babies to be at the current place and now the options are narrowing.
You need to take this seriously, but the house is a red herring. Sit down and figure out together what you need to get done to be as prepared as possible in various possible outcomes. Maybe someone can store your 2nd bedroom stuff until you can sell it. Buy some basics off your own registry just in case showers don’t happen. Hopefully you all get the full amount of time left and we get to a new normal before then, but you don’t have time anymore for a house to be a realistic option before then.