@Sunshine ...yes to all of the above first questions. As far as entitlement to what I want, if I have worked hard all my life and paid for them myself, then you are wrong, THINGS have never been an issue for me...my Happiness is my Loving wonderful Husband, and the precious time we share. I am a Florida Native, and always lived at the beach during my youth, we lived a mile from the ocean on Miami Beach, I have lived a life of having a very lot, and there was 18 years I lived through having nothing, and barely making it from paycheck to paycheck. Not only that, but through making sure my children had what they needed, food, clothing, books, the necessities, NOT any luxuries, for myself OR them. So I have lived on the very high end and the very low end. Happiness for me is not money, the problem that I am having is the fact that my Dad saved and worked hard also, he left this with me, and for the reasons of being through so much, he knew that I would be responsible. I have never walked away from my debt. The fact that I'd pay cash, is because I want to be in the situation of being debt free, and not worrying about loosing my home like so many people have done. I am one of the lucky ones, I know that, and that is the reason why I want to be very careful. It is stupid, no matter what we decide about the beach property to remain here, it is a waste, and I don't want to waste time or money here anymore. As it stands, we put a lot of money in this condo, and finding now, that it was a waste, makes us sick. But, I have come to the point, that I don't want to dwell or beat myself up about it anymore.
Like I said earlier, I have peace about loosing, if we loose the beach property, it wont be the first time..we will still get out from this one we are in now, even if we rent it, and we go rent at the beach until we find what we want.
The reasons for the move are much more that just an "I WANT I WANT" It is practical, we will be on bikes, or walking..here will be less wear and tear on our cars, etc. Less gas, and less of a commute for my husband, so that means more time for us together. We love to fish, we fish at the beach every weekend, we EAT our fish, saves money on food. lol
As far as "GET A JOB" You might save that for the ones who are eating off of my dime that I worked 15 years stressed out of my mind for, the job which put me in the hospital twice, once for my heart, and the other for my 2 ruptured disc's, which by the way I had surgery last year for, and went immediately back to my job, and within 6 months re-ruptured.
I am 57, I worked before I had my children for 10 years, stayed at home and raised them , and went back after that for 16 years. I deserve to rest..Before Dad died, he was upset that I was still working, he wanted me to retire. He was going to purchase a beach place in Ft Lauderdale for himself and leave it to me, he would have paid cash..I am like him, I hate debt, and I hate giving banks my interest.He has always lived at the beach, and he knew that I also have that same love..some people like the mountains, I like the beach.
The bottom line is, I do not have to give my personal side or any of my reasons of why I am not working at the present, to you or anyone else. But when someone whom I do not even know is judging me for not working, and have no idea why, I felt the need to let you know.
I am not using any welfare or sucking the government, or getting free insurance, we have our own, and we PAY for our own!
I have 2 children who graduated from College with highest Honors, can you say the same?