The Handsome Boyfriend and I have been discussing moving in together after dating for over a year. I already spend just about every day off at his house. We have a dog, we have talked about children, I'm part of family functions (my family is 250 miles away), blahblahblah...
He's not-very-Mustachian. Not perfectly Anti-Mustachian, but Not-Very-Mustachian.
His spending habits have always been a bit...luxurious by my standards. He grew up with much greater financial securiity, has no debts, actually has a nice stock portfolio that were set up when he was born. He's never had to worry about money. Me, not so much. Grew up poverty-line, student loan debt, unemployment, crappy job...
I feel like a dragon every time we talk about money. The other night I set it out that I could not live with him at his current level of spending, I could not afford the lifestyle he wants. I don't like the idea of money getting between us. I feel like a shrew. We both want children, we both want a safe home of our own...but he doesn't see frugality as the way to get there (and the way for me to get out of my crappy job). He'd rather sell his stocks (read: financial security blanket) than save up for a down payment.
HEEEEEEELLLP! My mustachianism vs his spendyness is ruining what I thought would be our life together.