A (not super close) friend of mine has suddenly lost her ex boyfriend/father of her child. She is devastated. I'm not entirely sure of her relationship with him, but I'm sure she feels the loss deeply for her child. I have never met him, but our kids go to school together and are close friends. From that, I know that he occasionally "forgot" to pick up the child from school, and I know that bothered my friend a lot. I think she struggled to co parent with him. I don't know that the background is pertinent, but here is my question. Can I/should I slip her cash when I see her next? Maybe a gift card? Is this where stealth wealth comes in? I know the deceased's family has a gofundme set up for the funeral. I know my friend works a lower wage job, lives with family, and is a single mother. Other than that, I'm not sure of her overall financial situation, although her son seems to have all of his needs met. I'm not sure how much the deceased's parents did contribute/will continue to contribute toward the care of the child. I'm thinking a few things. 1) If he had been paying child support, he is no longer 2) She is likely taking time off from work to deal with things 3) Christmas is coming up. Additionally, in the past I have known people who had a family member pass away and they had to set up a gofundme. I gave those people cash (our relationship was different) and they seemed to really appreciate it. One person was a girl I worked with, not close with, but close enough to know she was devastated by the loss and could use the extra cash. She seemed to appreciate the cash as well as the fact that I was thinking of her. So that situation was a bit different.
Basically, I want to help. I don't know how, and I'm awkward. Any advice, mustachians?