This is a sad and depressing question. DH's 37 y.o. niece has had cancer for the past two years and was just referred to hospice. She's expected live less than 2 months - likely much less. She has two elementary school aged children. While I've seen this coming (2 years of constant chemo including clinical trials was a tip off) the closer you are to the patient the harder it is to see death coming. Both her mother and husband were seemingly caught unaware.
Here's my dilemma: Both the niece and her mother have always spent money completely irresponsibly. I know they have no money for a funeral, burial or even a simple cremation. For ourselves, DH and I want to be cremated, ashes scattered, no church service, maybe a small memorial gathering of family at our house. I'm pretty sure they will want more than than, probably the whole funeral/church service/burial thing.
Here's my question: Should we volunteer money for the funeral/burial/cremation/? If so, should it only enough for the simple cremation we would want for ourselves or a larger sum for a more elaborate send off? (DH and I are retired and could afford to contribute whatever we decide without a problem.)