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Chairman

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Help with stressful job
« on: January 14, 2018, 02:25:47 PM »
I have a very high stress job that is killing me. Plan to get out mid-year (only sticking around because the money is too good). My sleep is suffering. I get feelings of near-panic that border on what you could call anxiety attacks. I have so time I could take off but now is a critical time for my team at work, and taking it off will probably only add to my stress. Finding myself wishing for an excuse not to go to work.

Anybody have any tips for getting through the next six months?

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Re: Help with stressful job
« Reply #1 on: January 14, 2018, 02:49:00 PM »
What type of job do you do? It is hard to give you advice without a general idea of what is stressing you out

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Re: Help with stressful job
« Reply #2 on: January 14, 2018, 04:18:22 PM »
You say you plan to get out mid year. So that leads me to believe you have a backup, have enough money to not need a backup, or donít think you will have any trouble getting another job.  Either way it sounds like you could probably do that now, but are CHOSING to keep working there. I find that thinking of it that way really helps.  I was very stressed at my job then I realized I was choosing to do it. If I really wanted to I could just take a less stressful (and less pay) job and live off a wage that millions of others live off of. I didnít do that because Iím making a CHOICE to sacfrice the stress for money. Realizing this reduced the stress a great deal.

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Re: Help with stressful job
« Reply #3 on: January 14, 2018, 04:28:52 PM »
Go see a doctor and get anxiety and possibly blood pressure medicine depending on their advice. Also find a new job asap. Jobs should are something challenging that you do to earn money. They shouldn't rule your life to the point that you can't sleep.

Saving money is awesome but your long term health and happiness are WAY more important.

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Re: Help with stressful job
« Reply #4 on: January 20, 2018, 11:25:33 AM »
...I get feelings of near-panic that border on what you could call anxiety attacks.

Anybody have any tips for getting through the next six months?

Chairman, I concur with 405programmer about seeing a doctor. While I didn't do any of the following when I suffered from insomnia due to worry and stress, I wished I had: yoga, hiking, taking care of my pets (making a fuss of them, taking the dog for a walk, brushing the cat ...), using essential oils and watching Netflix comedy specials with my son. I hope there's something in your life that can help you de-stress: cooking? running? working-out? reading a good book?

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Re: Help with stressful job
« Reply #5 on: January 20, 2018, 11:43:58 AM »
How many hours are you doing?

I have those anxiety bouts too. I need to do *everything* correctly to mitigate this: exercise, long walks, eat healthy, eat enough, not working too much, taking sick days, etc. It feels dangerous as hell.

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Re: Help with stressful job
« Reply #6 on: January 20, 2018, 12:18:07 PM »
Do you struggle with delegation?   I managed my work stress pretty well until I got a fake temporary promotion and became responsible for managing not only my own projects (which I continued to oversee) but also an office with 9 staff and 7 additional projects.  It was too much work for one person, but I made it worse by not delegating more.

The thing is, as others have noted, you can't work effectively when you are having panic attacks, not sleeping well, etc. 

I found the book Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud to be very helpful as I geared up to leave that position.  I was fortunate to be in a position to FIRE, but it was not the first time I had left work due to stress.   It isn't worth the toll you put on your mind/body to stick it out too long if you can't delegate and set better work/life boundaries.