Thanks guys. I knew that it was completely ridiculous. Plus it was funny that he tried to sell us a comprehensive plan, even though we are debt free, tax and estate planning is covered, insurance is ok, so wtf. I think that he was taken a bit by surprise by it and just misjudged the situation.
We do discuss finances with my husband ( reluctantly), we are in a good place I think, given the circumstances. I am just looking for some 'are we doing OK' tools, what can we do better. The process is a bit tedious though: usually I do some planning, crunch some numbers, start drip feeding the information to him until it gets his attention, he calls me delusional but gets convinced by the numbers, sits on it a bit, then embraces the plan. It is frustrating because he is the smart one, the numbers guy, I am just a planner, but obviously more motivated than him.. Anyway, we are getting there.
Keep the suggestions coming, they are really useful..i already checked out some, thanks for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it.