Hi and welcome. We are you, probably a few decades down the road -- high-earners, decent-but-never-truly-Mustachian savings rates, and jobs we pretty much enjoy and so don't feel compelled to quit. We are early 50s now and FI but plan to keep working until both kids are off to college. Oh, and I am much more frugal than DH, although he has spent a lot of years training that out of me. Even so, there are certain things I do not ever want to give up, because I grew up poor and worked hard specifically so I never had to do those things again. Things like clean the damn toilets. 90%+ of the people here roll their eyes at the thought of hiring a housecleaner, but they haven't kicked me out yet.
Here's the thing: this is the best site on the web, even for people like us. Because it forces you to challenge your assumptions all. the. time. It teaches you to reframe everything as a tradeoff of money vs. time, to really think hard about what you "need" and what makes you happy and what's worth it. So, for ex., I've done the math to figure out how much longer I'd need to work to fund a cleaning service forever, and I am 100% happy to work those few extra months to cover that (in fact, I already have). So no one gives me shit about it, because it is a conscious, planned decision. I also drive a StupidCar, which is completely anti the ethos here. But I just fucking love driving, and I waited and saved until I was FI and had retirement and college and everything else covered and could write a check for it. Honestly, people should give me more shit about that than they do. But they seem to recognize that it is important to me and actually makes me happyhappyhappy every time I drive it vs. mindless hedonic-treadmill consumption, and they seem to accept that that is my choice, even if they think it is the stupidest possible thing in the world to spend money on.*
You know why this is the best site on the web for high-earners? Because we have the means to get really, super lazy and to throw money at every problem and generally fritter away our lives in sloth and mindless consumption. But there is power in doing for yourself. There is power in knowing that you are capable of planting a garden, or repairing a broken door, or making jam, or changing your oil, or mowing your own yard, or lifting a heavier weight than you thought possible at your age, or whatever. There is power in challenging your brain and your body to try new things that you didn't think you could do.
And there is value in choosing to live in a neighborhood and home and follow a lifestyle that is consistent with your values -- which means you have to pay attention to what those values are. This place makes you think about that kind of stuff on a regular basis and challenge yourself to consider whether you actually enjoy something or are just doing it because it is easier, blingier, whatev-ier. And just that process -- the process of living intentionally -- automatically makes your life better no matter what choice you end up making.
*Which I freely admit it is. But I'm still not giving it up. Ever.**
**Or at least until I physically cannot drive a stick any more.