"I'm thinking of getting a second job, strictly to get women."
Please tell me you meant, I'm thinking of getting a second job, strictly to meet a nice person to date. Otherwise, ew.
I think he meant
"My experience in finance is that only about 20% of us will be women, and I want a larger and more diverse pool of potential dating partners so that I don't repeat my experience during grad school. Also, I'd like to find an environment that has women that I can form relationships with without fear of getting called into HR about sexual harassment or cause other disruptions to my primary source of income.
I'm in finance, and I know I won't find a woman I want to date sitting on my couch running excel simulations. Nor will any woman want to date me. Believe me, I've done the math.
And I'm not the sort of person who wants to pick women up in bars."
But maybe I'm reading too much into it.
THANK YOU.
My apologies for my wording... I'm no longer looking to "get" women. I'm not looking to hook up with women, if I did I would be going to bars and clubs.
Respond2u is spot on, majority of the students are male. I found one potential person in my 2 year degree, which I recently found out she is way too high maintenance and into high status items (she would shave my entire money mustache for sure).
Church is not an option for dating, as I no longer go to church.
I tried the Bar/club scene for the last year... Turns out majority who go are not the type of women to date.
Online dating seems to be a inefficient way of dating. After hours of scanning, and crafting perfect messages to girls... I've been on around 5 dates throughout the last couple years (I've been "casually" looking.. Installing and uninstalling the apps every couple months).
I will continue to use dating apps (even will look into the subscription apps... Maybe people will be more serious?)... Looking back at everyone I've dated, it was school & work.
WHERE YOU DO GO TO FIND OTHERS TO DATE? ANY SUGGESTIONS APPRECIATED.
Hi Teltic--I worked in software, which has a similarly low sexual diversity (maybe finance is considered part of M in STEM?). The last project I worked on in the US had 2 married women out of the 7 of us. A sister project had 8 guys, 0 women. That's fairly representative of many of the places I worked in or near (with some exceptions).
As you're pointed out (indirectly, and emphasized by BlueHouse's points on economic/bureaucratic/educational power disparity), it might be hard to find people to date in your department at work--either job.
You could try honing your pickup-artist skills at Starbucks, but that takes a "special" sort to do year after year until you find "the one".
My advice is to first work on having friends in your new life, and worry about dating later. If you start dating and have no friends, you'll be miserable in between dates. If you're enjoying life with your friends, I bet the socialization will lead to more dating.
Some specifics:
- L-3 probably has some sort of intramural clubs (softball, volleyball, running, biking, rocketry, etc.). That may not help you find dates, but at least you won't be on your couch.
- There's a possibility that your company may be hiring a bunch of other people at the same time, so you'll go through orientation with a bunch of other people in the same boat you are. Gang up. Explore the city together.
- Someone mentioned meetup.com. That's good to find things to do with other people that are trying to find things to do.
- Volunteer (e.g., Habitat for Humanity on Saturdays)
- take a second job. I knew a guy in his 60s that worked at the front desk of the corporate fitness facility after putting his 40 hours in. It gave hm extra cash and a different set of people to hang out with.
- Likewise, if you move into an apartment or community of some sort, they might have planned activities.
I bet, though, if you do things just to meet people that it won't work. I recommend doing things for the experience (learn to scuba dive) or because you really enjoy them (like scuba diving). I'm not sure you'll really enjoy Chili's as much at 27 as you did when you were younger.
Oh--one final suggestion: No one wants to hear their sister or daughter called a troll.